Hello Mia1234

I'm sorry to hear about your diagnosis. I hope that you're recovering well physically from your surgery and it's great to hear that no further treatment was needed. 

We've quite a few members here who have had different oral cancers including [@RadioactiveRaz]‍ . [@crofterlad]‍ , [@Taff123]‍ and [@Anchor1707]‍ . All these members are post-treatment and living life to the full. Many of them have written their own personal blogs about their journeys and it may help you to have a look at some of their posts and blogs. 

I think the thoughts and concerns you've described are common among many people who have had a cancer diagnosis. Life never quite returns to how it was before and it takes time to adjust to this new normal.

Talking certainly helps and I'd encourage you to either get in touch with your local Maggie's centre to talk to one of their support specialists or to give our team of nurses a call on 0808 800 4040 (Monday to Friday 9 am to 5 pm). 

It's also worth having a chat with your GP if you feel that you're struggling with your anxiety at the moment. 

What I would say is be kind to yourself Mia. This part of the recovery process takes time; don't expect yourself to settle back into things too quickly. 

Keep in touch. 

Best wishes, 
Jenn
Cancer Chat moderator 

Hi Mia

I'm Ian (Anchor 1707) as mentioned by moderator and thought I would respond to try and help.

I had tonsil cancer a couple years ago and after treatment and recovery I feel great and to be honest dont really give it a second thought now or look backwards.
In my opinion you should live your life as you see fit and dont see any harm whatsoever of having a few glasses of wine a week and nor would there be any reason not to start a family if you wished.

The fact you dont need anymore treatment is a positive state of affairs and you should really try to lead your life as normal now. you have had a little blip and the cure rates for our types of cancer means just that - cure and no reason to worry further if its going to come back as its been removed.

Please dont feel guilty about anything at all. You have already been though treatment and are now worried about future.
I cant speak for all but there are so many good news stories here with these types of cancer and the statistical rates of permanent cure are really high. I was told that from my consultant at the get go that he was aiming to cure and Ive remained positive since and lead a normal healthy life and dont have one worry at all in my head about it.

You are still really young and in my own view you should live your life to the fullest and enjoy it as much as you care to.

I hope this helps a little but please fel free to ask any questions or if you want to friend and chat, happy to do so if you feel it would help.

Kind regards
Ian