After a long year of numerous dr's vista for a persisting cough, feeling fatigued and low energy and more recently, numbness and jerking of her arm and neck, my mum had results from a CT scan on Tuesday, yesterday (hearing that the hospital called in such a short space of time told me to prepare for ten worst).
she has cancer of both lungs, it's entered the lymph system and spread to her liver. She's to have a biopsy so the consultant can give a proper prognosis of treatment
At first, I felt numb, and now I can't stop thinking about it, tearing up and thinking the worst. I have images of her loosing her hair through chemo (surgery isn't an option) and thinking this and that she will become frail and weak and in pain really upsets me! I've had conversations with my brother about Christmas- that it could be her last which is crazy! We don't have a prognosis yet but I can't get these thoughts out of my head.
My mum is in denial I think from what my dad has said- no emotion and really quiet. My dad is distraught- and that upsets me, thinking about how he would cope without her (been married 45 years and so everything together)
I've tried to make arrangements to go and visit them But they don't want to see anyone (only told yesterday about this) and I understand their wishes and why it would be overwhelming but I feel alone - my partner is very positive about it all and when I voice my concerns which are mainly negative, he just says that I'm always seeing the bad in situations.
sorry if this is a ramble but I need to vent and get this off my chest