Good Morning Natalie, you will always miss your Dad. The pain will become less and you will remember him and smile. My daughter is 40. She has come to visit me for a couple of days. We sat and talked last night. Her Dad has been gone for 4 years now. And she still sheds a tear for him. It is more with fondness and a laugh. What would Dad have done Mom. She has got a florist and he was aLways in the trade and she wishes so much she could talk to him. If she has a down day she will still have a cry. Grieving is one of the hardest things I think to bear. It is a dark dull ache in the pit of your stomach. It doesn't go away but it does calm down. Your Dad would want you to get on with your life. He would want you to laugh and have fun, don't beat yourself up about it. Just give yourself pleanty of time. You will be fine. Xxx

Hi Gillian

Thank you for your reply. Everyone tells me it won't hurt as much as times passes but just right now I just feel the pain of his loss so much. He meant the world to me, my mum, brother and much recently my daughter Mia.  He was my hero, my knight in shining armour. Always there for me.  I am sorry for you and your family's loss also.  Thank you again for your kind words xxx

You sound like you have got your hands full. We have to just work through the healing process. It's not something I would wish on anyone. Xx

Hi what makes you think hes gone a lot of people feel them around them after me included we miss there physical pesence terribly but we dont know what happens to all the thoughts the love the energy that make us i doupt it disapears just cant see it you cant see energy but we know its there and thats what we are . It does get eisier we dont dont forget we fear we are forgetting them but it comes back just the memorys change we mostly forget the horried things and get the warm feelings of holidays and lovely times and the feelings of being protectect and safe it all changes but so slow you barely notice keep talking to your dad hes around one day at a time look to some counciling that can realy help its not a magic bullet but if you let it a lot dont it will help .paul

Hi just ring local hospice and ask about it its nhs so its free . Its a bit of a post code lottery  so dont dont know waiting times i was lucky i got it in a week .in my case it was my partner so it was a lifeline its not heavy but we all have questions and they have some of the answers but you have to stick at it because it can bring it back a bit but it does take you forward and your joining a club realy like on here not one we want to be in but glad we are .paul

Hi Natalie.. 

I feel the same I lost my Dad in January. It's so hard and there is no fix no way to bring them back. I miss him so much and I'm trying so hard to continue with life and have some sort of normality again. It ebb and flows. I'm pretty sure you grieve forever but as others say in time comes a calmness and a different sort of grief. Life can never be the same but you can find joy again apparently. I feel the saddness you face. Rosie

Thank you so much the information. I'm so glad I joined here it has helped me so much already.

Hi Rosie thank you so much for taking the time to message me. I am so sorry for the loss of your wonderful dad also. It would have been my dad's 62nd birthday last Wednesday so the last week has been extra difficult. I find myself missing him more and more everyday. Never feels like it's getting any easier xx

Hi Natalie my Dad was 63.

All the firsts hurt so much. Any every other day too. 

Do you have any siblings?  This place helped me so much too in the early days and now 7 months later too. It's weirdly comforting to know others have experienced similar things. I have my moments or days etc but on the whole I'm some how finding the courage to go on. Some times I feel a tiny bit stronger and then sometimes I feel back to almost square one. 

Sending you a huge hug. XxxxX