I lost my Dad today - pancreatic cancer

I lost my dad to pancreatic cancer today. It all happened so fast and I don’t know how to bring to comprehend it. In less than 24 hours the disease completely ravaged him. 

I don’t know if he could hear us at the end or if he knew how much I loved him. I feel too young at 29 to have lost him. I am angry. I am devastated. I am unable to believe it to be true. 

Please god, I hope he could hear me. How does anyone begin to get through this? It’s my first real experience of death. 

  • Hi there ...I'm so so sorry, this evil disease has taken another loved dad .... it has No compation... no empathy ... 

    I've been told by medical staff the last thing that goes is the hearing ... so trust he did hear you ...  my mum was the first l lost ... just go with how you feel ... l had a scream deep within me when my mum passed ... I held it in ... only for it to come out years later .... now I don't hold feelings in ... 

    It's about just getting through the day your in ... there's no easy way round it ... so many of us know that feeling of loss and confusion ... but you are half of your dad ... tuck him up in your heart now, where cancer can never hurt him again ... and carry him there on your journey through life ... 

    Sending you a vertual hug. .. Chrissie

  • Hi Ajw89,

    I am really sorry to read of your loss, and I am so sorry for you.

    I lost my Mum to this disease in November 2018, so although everyone's journey is so different I have some idea of how you are feeling. My Mum shed a few tears right at the end, she hadn't cried in months, so although she couldn't speak to us, I felt that she could hear me. I have often wondered if my Mum knew how much I loved her, and it is something I have come back to many times. My personal comfort is that I know how much she loved me, and so I think the reverse must be true too. I can't give you any words of wisdom on how to live with it, espcially in those first few days when everything is so topsy-turvy. Just be kind to yourself and just do what you feel you can everyday.