Husband was just diagonosed.

Hi, I am new to this forum. I was reading and stumbled across this and am so glad I did. My husband was diagnosed this week with liver, both lungs, and colon cancer stage 4. He is starting chemo on Tuesday. I have never been around anyone that had chemo so this will be a new experience for both of us. My huaband has had regular doctor visits and blood work for years now. He had part of his colon removed in 2002 which included the removal of a polyp the size of a baseball. We always thought it was precancerous but when he had his last colonoscopy it said it was cancer. In 2013 that saw something on his colonoscopy which looked suspicious so they went in and tattooed the spot and rechecked it a few weeks later and everything looked good. He had his normal colonoscopy in June 2016 and it was clear. The beginning of summer he started having stomach pains as well as back and side. His worst symptom was constipation. He went to the VA in June and they did xrays and all they found was a messed up disc in his lower back; other than that they said he was fine. July rolled in and he was still having problems so he got an appt. with his doctor; he didn't seem too concerned until he listened to the symptoms and decided it was time for a Cat scan. It was abnormal and showed signs of possible cancer. He had another colonoscopy which showed nothing. Next step was the Pet scan. That showed how many areas were affected. The port has been put inserted and now he starts chemo Tuesday. We just fpound out the diagnosis last Tuesday. It is just hard to believe this especially when he has had his regular checkups. We have many prayers going up for him. He is a Purple Heart Viet Nam Marine so praying for a miracle with his healing. Thanks for listening.

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    Hi Donna,

    Welcome to Cancer Chat.

    I am sorry to hear about your husband’s recent diagnosis. This sort of diagnosis will always come as a shock, especially when he has been having regular check ups. Treatment has started so quickly you must both feel as if your heads are spinning.

    You are fortunate that you have no experience of chemo to date. How many treatments is he due to have? I have lost many family members and friends to this horrible disease. I lost my Mum many years ago. She had breast cancer which she fought valiantly for 12 years. She was diagnosed with metastases in her final year. These were found in her liver, lungs, brain and bones and it was heart-breaking to see how quickly she declined. I myself have now had 2 bouts of primary breast cancer, but am always frightened in case it spreads too.

    Have you had a chat to your husband’s care team about chemo and what to expect? The hospital should also be able to provide you with leaflets about chemotherapy.

    I do hope that all goes well for your husband tomorrow. I shall say a little prayer for you both before I go to bed tonight.

    Please keep us in the loop and let us know how you get on. There is always someone here whenever you feel like talking.

    Kind regards,

    Jolamine xx

     

  • Hi Donna sorry about ur hubby

     

    i feel ur pain my sister was misdiagnosed for years YEARS til they found out she had bowel cancer stage 4 so many docs wrote her symptoms off to hemmorroids lack of fiber in diet etc can't tell u how angry we all were like urself we're praying for a miracle

     

    Don't give up is all i can tell ya 

     

    Hugs Sandy x

  • Thank you Sandy; your prayers are greatly appreciated.

  • My husband is scheduled for 12 sessions; every other week. That should be about 5 months and go into January. We have been explained how chemo works but each patient reacts differently. Thank you for your kind words and prayers. I will keep you posted as to how he reacts to his treatment.

  • Hello Donna,

    I shall be waiting to hear.

    Stay strong.

    Jolamine xx

  • Hi Donna, 

    My husband has just been diagnosed with stage 4 melanoma. We are married 6 mths and Im expecting our first child. I don't know about you, but the shock was one of the toughest blows so far. I am amazed that your husband was so diligent in getting himself checked and you are in the same boat. 

    My husband had, what we thought was a chest infection and 10 days later we found that he has a polyp in the lung, a tumor, cancer in the abdomen, brain and possibly bones(waiting on bone scan result) He is starting immunotherapy this week. I dont know what to expect.  We are meeting our oncologist Thur as he has just finished 2 weeks of radiotherapy. 

    How are you coping with things? I go from being completely practical to utterally amazed this is happening, to bewildered, emotional and very lonely.