Hi — I’m so sorry to hear about your husband’s diagnosis. I lost my Dad to pancreatic cancer in late November and I can totally relate to what you’re going through, except my Dad didn’t really talk about what was happening all that much. I have no advice to give you other than to make the most of every second and if you can, make some happy memories. Also: you are stronger thank you think and it’s totally OK to cry; it just means we care xx

I am so sorry to read your post, are there any local groups you could join with people in the same position as you? Have you been in touch with the Macmillan nurses? Have you identified the hospice he will eventually go in? 

I wish I could offer you some wise words of wisdom, all I can say is this forum may well offer you some comfort. There are many people here who will totally understand what you're going through, it's sometimes a relief to share experiences and know your not the only one living what must feel like a nightmare.....

xxxx

I absolutely understand you. My OH was given the diagnosis of stage 4 liver cancer a few days ago. Apparently it’s secondary. No idea where the primary is. 

Now have to tell the kids and have no idea what to expect. 

Thank you for your replies. They and this forum have helped me. I have the name of a hospice and tel no that the hospital gave me but all this was discussed with my husband when I wasn't there so I dont know when they will be in touch. I will telephone them - my husband says they will set up a meeting and now the weekend is over I hope this  progresses. I feel robbed because he needs to sleep so much which uses up our time together but even lying next to him holding his hand and telling him I love him is a comfort.

hcindy, my heart goes out to you, we have no children so that was one hurdle I didn't have and there is no easy way. I know that I appreciated honesty in all this and will be grateful for the doctors that told us calmly and clearly the cancer diagnosis. My husband told me himself of  the prognosis of a few months and it must have been the hardest thing he'd ever done. I will be thinking of you x   

Hi my partner was diagnosed with lung cancer in May we've now only been together 12 months on 5th Sept I thought he is my happy ever after but now been told he has liver cancer both terminal ..... he's in hospital at moment as went in yesterday with high blood sugar and fatigued and no appetite.   We spoke to a Macmillan nurse who told us that the liver cancer is aggressive I so understand how you must be feeling I feel my whole world is slipping away from me and I'm losing my grip .... I'm trying to stay strong as you in front of him but falling apart when on own .... I really don't want to lose my help and let go 

I'm lying in bed watching the clock widhingit away soni can go back to hospital to find out what's happening 

Hiya could we possible talk, I'm struggling so much I have just found out my mum has stage 4 liver cancer and she is terminal with months to live also. I could do with a friend in a similar situation to talk to? 

Hi - I have sent you a friend request so that I can message you. My Husband has now died but it was so peaceful just like one moment he forgot to breathe and then it was all over. I am also in the process of losing my Mum to cancer (Ovarian/Bowel) at present and spend every evening with her in a hospice so please forgive me if I do not respond immediately.

Until we talk again, make the most of every moment you have together, accept offers of help, realise that this is hard, if you feel out of your depth you won't be alone (I know I did) but you will be doing the best that you can and noone can ask any more of anyone. As someone who has lost the closest person in thier life and is going through it again a year later with thier Mum I know how hard and brutal it is but you are stronger than you realise right now. Take care of yourself x