My husband was diagnosed end of May. I am trying to be strong for him but can't stop crying sometimes in front of him. This makes me feel so bad, he is being the strong one. Where can I get the strenght from to stop this stupid crying.
Oh tonid this is such a difficult time for you and don't feel guilty about crying it is all so hard for you at the moment. I am sure your husband truly appreciates your love and your support at a time when he needs it the most.
I hope you won't mind but I have slightly edited your title so that others realize immediately what the subject of your post is and I am sure many of our members will be along shortly and give you some tips and strategies on how they themselves felt and how they managed to cope emotionally. It is normal to feel this way though so don't feel bad and we are all here for you anytime you need to talk.
Hi tonid don't worry most people become emotional in your circumstance I'm sure your husband understands, the main thing is being there when he needs help the rest doesn't matter remember emotions are a natural thing they can take over nomatter what you do, best wishes.
Hello Tonid Please never ever feel guilty as others have posted its a difficult emotional shocking experience to have to go through. Your husband knows how much you love him and thats why your hurting so much. Try and take one step at a time together. I am so very sorry that your husband and yourself are having to go through this heartbreaking experience. Others on here will give you courage to face this together. One day at a time. Your not alone and talking if you can and sharing on here will help. Big hugs to you both. Take care Leigh60 xx
Thank you, I just wish he would cry with me but he has withdrawn from me. I think he is trying to protect me. I don't need protection just him xxx Still crying, sod it.
You cry ... get it all out ... I've been on both sides ... and trust me it's Way harder watching someone you love go through it ...
You know if you give yourself permission to feel that .. and say it's o.k to feel scared .. it's o.k to cry ... then you won't feel so overwhelmed all the time ... your hubby is probly being strong for you ... but you know it's really o.k to share tears ... holding feelings in doesn't help anyone ... but so many men have been brought up to not cry ... keep a stiff upper lip ... when in truth, if they could let feelings out, it would help them too ...
Totally know how you feel. When my wife was first diagnosed, I was an utter crying mess. I had to lock myself in the disabled toilet at work constantly and bawl my eyes out. I cried a little in front of my wife and always felt so terrible when I did because I should be looking after her, not the other way round. With her support, I managed to keep positive whilst waiting for her op, but now she's had it and is recovering in hospital, I'm totally falling apart again, we're waiting for biopsy results that show whether it's likely to come back or not. I feel sick just thinking about it.
I'm afraid I can't really offer you any advice other than to say, I think this is a totally normal reaction and that you're not alone. Keep letting it out, try and find someone you can talk to about it, here is a good start. I try to keep faith that one day, this will get easier and the crying will reduce.
Thank you. Fingers crossed for a good result for your wife. We find out on Tues if my husband can have the op. As he has heart failure they are not sure. Hugs x
I feel exactly the same, i hope you are okay. It can be anytime of the day, washing up and i burst into tears.. This is the hardest thing to do, i honestly feel scared but as you have said, he's being the strong one.
Ive known for a year, his weight has dropped rapidly the only thing i can tell you is pay for a nutritionalist and please know, you are not alone X
