Your post Rubdeb, has brought a lump to my throat, your story is almost the same as mine. My wife died the day after her 51 st. Birthday and I was completely devastated, my next door neighbor said this is when you’ll find out who your true family and friends are, he was so right, everyone seemed to think I would pass it on to them so they all stay away ? I know how your feeling and hope things will improve for you, take care Tony.

My story is very similar, my darling husband was diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer 4 weeks ago. We are devastated. He’s my soul mate and the love of my life. I can’t imagine a day without him. I’m 55 as well. I just don’t know how to handle this at all so I sympathise completely with you x

I’m not so sure about giving advice, but you sound like a lovely person and I’m sure you’re daughters will give you loads of support, I only wish I could, but as I’m struggling with the same feeling all I can say is if you want to talk about anything I’d be only to happy to try to help, I do wish you the very best for your future and don’t forget if you think I could help don’t hesitate to message me. Good luck to you both and I’m thinking of you, take care Tony..xx

I guess the one thing we can take from this is how lucky we’ve been to have these wonderful men in our lives. I can’t imagine how I move forward except living one moment one day at a time and becoming stronger bit by bit  as an independent person. I am visiting my husband twice a day and I feel he’s starting to slip away from me in terms of following conversations and he’s started having falls.