I have c.u.p cancer of unknown primary.i have secondary cancer.my lymph nodes were removed in my left groin.the wound is badly infected.i would just like to know how to cope with the loneliness
I am so sorry to hear that you are having such a hard time. Many of us feel lonely at times too. It doesn't matter how large our families are or how many friends we have. It is difficult for loved ones to know exactly how we feel when going through treatment.
Many people have found it much easier to come to this site and to talk things over with people who have had first hand experience of cancer and who really know what you are talking about.
There is no need to be lonely with this site so easy to reach. You will find that there is always someone who can empathise with the way that you are feeling, or even to just lend a listening ear. I am sure that your infection won't be helping you to feel good either and hope that you get it healed up soon.
Bravo, Karan! You just did the first thing to decrease your loneliness! You reached out! And when you are going thru cancer treatment, sometimes you dont have the strength to even reach out for a cup of water for yourself, much less reach out for support.
I am blessed to be cancer free, myself. However, I lost my dad to cancer 18 months ago, while I was caring for my mom who has stage 4 cancer. My moms cancer has returned even though she had the best treatment in America at Dana Farber Hospital in Boston. They were absolutely wonderful and cutting edge technology but Head and neck cancer is tricky.
My mom often reports feeling lonely and I think that is totally normal. Even though I try desperately to do things to make her happier (sitting on the beach, potting a plant or flower) I can not go thru this FOR her, only WITH her. that breaks my heart, I wish I could take it all away for her.
Please join a cancer support group in your area. THEY will totally understand what you are going thru. you will not even have to explain! And they will also give you unconditional support. Mum likes this because she feels like she isn't "burdening me more" with her feelings.
There is a book I highly recommend for ANY cancer patient. It is called Your Sorrow is My sorrow and has the best meditations, prayers and reflections on living with cancer, fear, anxiety and the unknown.
May God Grant you PEACE for today. Reach out, brave one.
Deb- from USA
I understand how you feel. I too have CUP and secondaries in my left lymph nodes. Its baffling how after lots of scans the primary cant be found.
Up to now im having radiotherapy as my nodes can't be removed. I do hope as the days move on your infection is improving? Will you be having anymore treatment once the infection heals?
I get how you feel lonely as sometimes is difficult talking to loved ones . I feel as if my world has stopped.
