Hello,

I guess I will start by telling you a bit about myself and my story. My name is Jade I’m 27, married with 2 children ages 5 and 2. My mum who was 50 this year got diagnosed in April with secondary breast cancer in her lungs, liver, bones and lymph nodes. And then last week we got told that it has spread to her brain.

so originally she was diagnosed in March 2015 with stage 2 breast cancer, she has a lumpectomy, 6 rounds of chemo and 5 weeks of radiotherapy. She was amazing if you hadn’t known that she had it then you wouldn’t be able to tell, she dealt with everything so well and was ready to fight this horrible disease. And she did and got the all clear around a year later. We didn’t really even think about it all that much after that, it was almost like that part of her life was a bit of a dream (or maybe nightmare).

That was until April of this year, when she was diagnosed with secondary breast cancer in her lungs, liver, bones and lymph nodes after suffering for a couple of months with a bad cough. So again she put her fighting pants and positive head on and started with chemo. (Another 6 rounds)

Her first ct scan was in July to see how things were going and we were amazed when they told us the news that the cancer had reduced by 50%, wow we even had a little celebration dinner that night.

We carried on as normal more chemo etc, she had a few lows in hospital with pneumonia and then a couple of weeks later with dehydration but on the whole she was doing really well and always so positive.

Her second ct scan was beginning of October along with an MRI scan on her head and we had her results last week. Her cancer in her body has reduced a little bit more but we got told the devastating news that her cancer has spread to her brain. I’m so devastated and gutted not even sure how to voice how I feel. I have a very good support network of family and friends as my mum does too but I’m just not sure how to deal with all my emotions.

Obviously I want to stay positive for mum but am finding this very difficult at the moment. I feel like I’m getting very stressed out with the kids and starting to shout at them a lot which obviously I do not want to be doing.

I’m just looking for some advice on how people in a similar situation as me have dealt with their children. My children are not naughty but just normal children who sometimes like to push the boundaries. 

My mum is my best friend and I’m really not sure how I’m going to cope with what the future has in store.

Hope that this post isn’t too long! Could talk loads more but don’t want to bore any of you.

Thank you in advance for any advice

Jadd