Hi Ursulah, 

It can be very difficult knowing how to support someone in this situation as it can be just as scary if not worse for the people supporting the person with the diagnosis as many of our members here have found out and hopefully some of them will reply soon to offer their support and advice. Maybe just knowing you are there is all he needs at the moment but I'm sure when he is ready he will open up to you more but remember that whenever you are scared or anxious we will always be here to listen and support you.

Kind regards, 

Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator

Hi Ursulah,

You said in another thread that he is now your ex-boyfriend. Breaking up at such a traumatic time must be next to impossible for you both.

As hard as this may seem, you've done all that can be expected from you. You have let him know that you are there if or when he wants your help and support.

He will be struggling with his emotions enough getting his head around the fact that he has cancer and he probably won't be in a place where he wants to re-kindle a relationship with all the stress associated with that. Rightly or worngly, it is his decision - he will let you know if he changes his mind. 

Best wishes
Dave