Oh honey, I feel for you.
Just be there for mum when she wants to talk.  Being able to listen and empathise is a great gift.  Be there for auntie too if you can.
Having a terminal diagnosis can mean there could be a fair amount of time left to enjoy.
Treatments are being improved all the time and we do see some success stories bring shared here after folk having a poor prognosis.
Thinking of you
Sending a hug
Kathy x
 

Thanks Kathy

I'm trying to stay positive for my mum and Aunty but its really difficult, there's not much time left, it's a really aggressive form.  In the last two weeks alone she has gone from a strong woman who you would not recognise there being anything wrong with, to a frail lady who is in great pain and cannot get out of bed.  Its heartbreaking.

Hi,

It sounds like you are already doing all that can be expected of you.

All you can really do is to be there for your Auntie and other relatives such as your Mum. If needed act as her advocate with the clinicians to ensure she is getting the treatment and pain relief she needs and make sure everyone around her support her and each other practically and emotionally. 

Like many other people on here, I've been through something similar with my Mum and can only empathise with your situation. 

Best wishes
Dave
x

Thanks Dave

I really appreciate your advice.  I will do my best to be everything my mum and Auntie need me to be.  Again I am really grateful that you have taken time out of your day to respond.  Hugs to everybody that is fighting this horrible, selfish illness.

sorry to hear about ur auntie I too am finding it very hard to *** to terms my mum as aggressive cancer it's very sad but if u feel the need to off load an get support try talking to Mac Milan all my luv x

Thanks denise123

I am so sorry to hear that you too are going through something similar.  Macmillan nurses have only just got involved, as I said the latest diagnosis happened so quickly, she was fine then she was bed ridden and told it was back and there was nothing they could do.  Now that Macmillan nurses are involved, I may try to speak to them.  Thanks again. Sending you and your mum my love xx

bless u it is so hard cancer is jus terrible fank u for ur kind words n I please feel free to talk to me wen ever u like as I've found this forum so helpful ️u no ur not alone xxxx

Ok so I was not expecting to be writing this post just a week after I wrote my first post.  Unfortunately things have deteriorated rapid for my Aunt.  She is going into a hospice tomorrow.  In 7 days she has gone from being able to walk the length of a long corridor to not even being able to pick a cup up herself for a drink.  I have been to visit her tonight, it's heart wrenching.  I so wish I could take her pain away.  Mum didn't let go of her hand all the time we were there.  Need to be strong but not sure I can continue the acting

Hi Anon  You dont need to keep acting you can and by the sound of it need a good cry.  Sometimes letting go of the emotion yourself if it is on your own, with a loved one or even a friend can be just what you need to carry on being strong for your Aunt and your Mum.  Sometimes people think that if they let the tears come they wont stop but they do and it helps you to carry on - or at least that was my experience.

I dont know how but we do find the inner strength when people need us.

Thanks river56.  I feel like if I cry I am being weak and I am needed to be strong for my mum, my aunt and my cousins(my aunts children).  I can only imagine how hard it is to lose a sibling but it must be even harder when it's a twin because they have a special bond that the other siblings don't have.  I worry how mum will cope when the inevitable happens.  That must sound really selfish of me.