Welcome to Cancer Chat, Pix2017.

I'm sorry to hear that your mum was diagnosed with cancer on Friday.

This must be a very trying time for you both so it is only natural that you feel a bit overwhelmed with everything around you at the moment. I hope that some of our friendly members will pop by very soon to offer advice and support, but in the meantime feel free to post as much as you need.

There is a page from our website I wanted to share with you with some tips on how to cope with cancer, which I hope will be of some help. To read more please click here.

Our team of cancer nurses is available as well if you feel that speaking with someone medically trained could help. You can reach them by ringing this number 0808 800 4040 (which is free of charge if you're calling from the UK), Monday - Friday, between 9 a.m - 5 p.m.

Stay strong, Pix2017, and remember you don't have to go through this alone, we're here to listen whenever you need us.

Best wishes to you and your mum,

Renata, Cancer Chat Moderator

Oh honey, I'm so sorry for you both.  Don't worry about showing your Mum your grief - she will be feeling it too and wanting to be strong for you.  Your tears will give her permission to shed hers.

You don't have to do or say anything 'right', just being there for her and loving her is a wonderful thing and will mean everything to her, I'm very sure.

One way you can help your Mum is to look after yourself too - as well as you can.  See what help and support you can get - it isn't failure, it's sensible.  Please don't wait till you are at breaking point.  Your GP should be able to offer advice about support.

My children helped me so much last year through my treatment - one of my favourite memories is just laying my head on my child's shoulder when I was ill - saying nothing at all.  It was such a great help.  

May you be given all the comfort and strength you need to get through all this.

Blessings honey.

Phil