I'm finding the advice of how to help someone with cancer very confusing and makes me more anxious. I keep finding things on line that tell me what I have said is wrong and some sites are conflicting. My ex boyfriend decided he needed to face this without me so I'm not sure whether my persistence is making things worse or better. We've been through an emotional roller coaster as shortly after breaking up he was diagnosed with cancer. I don't think it's important whether we would or wouldn't have got back together but he keeps saying he doesn't want to get my hopes up. I just want to be there for him but also want to respect his space. Since he started chemo we only communicate by text which makes it even harder to know where his head is at. It's hard to know how to respond as I can't give him a hug via text.