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Hey guys my husband is terminal and the hospital bed arrives

12 Aug 2019 23:56

Im struggling with my husband who has teminal cancer i lost my dad in jan. I have my mum living with me how has an autoimmune disease and a son with mental health issues. I have taken a career break to look after him. Hospital  bed arrives tomorrow. X

Hey guys my husband is terminal and the hospital bed arrives

13 Aug 2019 07:34 in response to Nikkig254

Hi Nikkig254,

 

Sounds like you have an awful lot on your plate!  Just checking, have you got carers in to help care for your Mum (and potentially your husband)?.  They can come in several times a day to help with meals, getting them up, putting them to bed, housework etc.  You don't need to do this all on your own.

My best advice to dealing with this emotionally is to not look at the whole and deal with each separate challenge as it comes.  Try to break things down into what you need to do today, rather than all the things you need to do and get through.

Make sure you remember to look after yourself in all this, it's not selfish.  If you don't look after yourself, you won't be able to look after anyone else, make the time.

T

Hey guys my husband is terminal and the hospital bed arrives

13 Aug 2019 20:05 in response to Tyogani

Thank you for the advice. Much appreciated. No i dont have any carers but i see the community nurse tomorrow and will talk to her about it.

Thanks

N

Hey guys my husband is terminal and the hospital bed arrives

14 Aug 2019 21:57 in response to Nikkig254

Sorry to hear you are having to deal with so much.  Ring Adult Social Care in your area and ask for a Care Needs Assessment under the Care Act 2014 for your Mum.  You can also request a carer's assessment under the same act which means that after assessment, if you have eligible needs, which you do, you could get some help to have some time to yourself.  

Good luck x