Hi there tina ...sorry to hear your dads cancer has spread ... thats why we call this cancer journey a rollercoaster as its non stop up and downs ... all id say is try not to look ahead and live in the day .. talk , lots of hugs, and dont be afraid to admit your scared ... even sharing a few tears can bring you together ..

If your dad doesn't want your sibling to know, that's his choice but say if he does change his mind that's o.k too ... you sound a wonderfull supporting daughter ... you will have lots of emotions and they are perfectly normal ...even the strongest of us have a meltdown sometimes ... and at least you know there's lots of us on here that have been where you are now ... so you'll always have a shoulder to lean on here ... Chrissie x

Chriss

  Thank you for your kind words. It is true that Cancer is a rollercoaster. Dad is only 65 and mom died not long ago. They had plans that never came to be an thats hard to accept.

I have no problem with honoring his choices and if he never changings his mind. Its ok I have delt with the people who call themselves family for way too long. 

 He did tell my husband and kids. They have been fantastic over this year. and so helpful with staying with my older uncle . A wonderful person  (stroke and Alzheimer) . 

 Going forward I will try and be more organized. We all hope to get this cancer managed for a lil while. I love dad and pray he can keep his mobility. 

Chriss I do hope you are doing well . Going to look you up 

Tina

Hi Tina ... bet your pops is so proud of you ... my sister also has dementure ... and wer seeing her fade slowly , but wer all holding her with us as long as poss ... and even when she doesn't know who we are , we will 're tell her over and over ... so I know how that effects us ... l know what you mean about family and heard lots of times how they come out of the woodwork (if you know what l mean) but your there all the time so you need to be kind to you ... who cares for the carer ? ... so glad hubby and kids are on board ... they will get you through ...

Hold on in there ... always here for good, bad days or if you just want a rant ... I had a meltdown day a while ago so no matter how strong we think we are ... it's o.k ... it's about getting back up and facing one more day ... my mum went suddenly with heart attack ... she was kind, funny, and taught me to look at both sides ... amazing nanny to my boys ... I was 36 then ... l never got the chance to tell her just once more how proud I was she was my mum ... so you hold on to each day ... and get a tight grip on this rollercoaster ... it's always a really bumpy ride ... Chrissie