Hi Kimchoson,

How right you are, you have got it spot on. I belong to a local charity which was started by a man named Paul Huggett who lost two wives to breast cancer, leving him with two young girls to bring up. He told me he had to be both father and mother to them and found there was no help at all for himself with both the griving and the practical side of things. Which is why he set up the charity Cancervive especially for family and friends of cancer patients.

Having been both a patient and someone who has lost several close family members to cancer, I fully endorse what you say. I canot fault the service I recieved as a patient, but when my mother died which I found far more difficult to deal with, there was no support, either practical or emotional at all offered.

It is good that we have this forum where we can highlight things like this and thank you for starting this post. Best wishes to you, Brian.