Hi,
This is a bit messy but I don't have anyone else to talk to really.
My friend has been diagnosed with bowel cancer. We're both in our mid 30s and although we aren't together as a couple it had always been one of those situations where it was on the cards. Just bad timing. He has a partner at the moment and has for some time, but we had an honest chat pre his diagnosis where we admitted there might be something real there and we're going to talk more.
Obviously now it can't happen and I don't want to pressure anything as that would be the wrong and selfish thing, but I'm a total mess. I want to be there for him but I feel so helpless and distant from the situation.
He is talking to me and we are looking to meet up soon for a chat, but I don't know what my boundaries are anymore or what to say.
I know it's a very specific situation, and I don't really know what I'm asking, I'm just so scared for him, and angry that we were finally getting somewhere and it's all gone so wrong. I know that's selfish too.
I also feel terrible as his girlfriend knows nothing about me, and I don't want her too as that wont help anyonbe
thanks for listening.