My mum was diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer last year, unfortunately she can’t have treatment due to the cancer already being aggressive and also because she has heart failure. For the last 3/4 months, mums weight loss is becoming more drastic and she’s sleeping regularly for short periods of time. She can fall asleep 3/4 times an hour for 10-15 mins at a time. The last couple of weeks she’s started shouting out random words whilst she’s asleep and also muttering a lot when not actually shouting out. She also seems to have short term memory loss and will use old day words when talking. She refers to money as shillings etc. I believe that it’s common for lung cancer to spread to the brain and I’m worried that this is the case. Mum is refusing to have any more hospital appointments as she says there’s no point to being prodded and poked when she’s going to die anyway. I was just wondering if there’s anything I could look out for to know whether the cancer has spread to the brain or not? Mum has been getting very snappy lately which is not her at all, she’s stopping friends from visiting her with stupid excuses which again isn’t her. Mum is saying things like, she can feel different parts of her dying but can’t go into detail with what she means, she just says she can’t explain it as it’s just a feeling that she has. Could she really be feeling parts of her dying, is this actually possible?
I don’t really know what advice I’m asking for, I come across this site and wondered if anyone else knows someone with these symptoms and how they dealt with it. I’m an only child and so I have nobody else to ask if they’ve noticed the change in Mum so I’m not even sure if all this is just my mind playing tricks with me being so tired. I’m my mums only carer and she won’t have any professional carers come in to help so I don’t really know what to do or where to turn.
I’m sorry if this message makes absolutely no sense but to be honest, my mind isn’t making much sense anymore.