Hi,
I lost my mum 21st January 2021 to breast cancer. I am 24 years old and my mum was only 55. I know it's hard losing anyone at any age but I can't help feel cheated that I only got 24 years with my mum. (I know I should be greatful as some more get even less)
When she got told she had months to live the one thing she said is that she wanted to see me get my house (I was currently in the process of buying a house) and unfortunately she passed 4 weeks before. The fact she never got her last wish hurts me so bad. I'm also engaged and the thought of actually getting married without her there is so so painful. Everyone is telling me I have so much to look forward to in life and my life is only just starting buts that's not how I see it. I would do anything to go backwards and relive the time I had with my mum. She really was my bestfriend and we had the most amazing relationship.
Another thing that I'm trying to get to terms with is how after 2 or 3 weeks everyone stops asking how you are or if your okay and just expects everything to be normal again when infact nothing will ever be the same again. For me the more time that goes by the harder it gets. I feel like people don't want to speak about my mum around me because it might be awkward for them but I want to speak about her all the time and keep her memory alive.
Everything is so difficult at the minute and I am dreading Mother's Day. I just want to see if there's anyone in a similar situation to me or if anyone has been through a similar situation and knows when it gets easier.
Thanks for letting me rant,
Sarah