Hi Everyone,
I know alot of you will have some helpful answers for me or at least understand where I'm coming from.
I lost my Dad in Jan from an awful horrible quick cancer which was a terrible shock for me still being in my 20's and him early 60's.
The first few weeks after loosing him were so awful and sereal. After 4 weeks I went back to work and eased myself back in slowing. I didn't feel ready but was the most broke I've ever been with only 2 days compassionate leave. It's crazy how bills needing to be paid forces you back to work when your world is crumbling around you.
I'm now doing quite well I think considering I work in a customer facing busy environment but I almost feel because alot of the time now I'm doing quite well and don't have many breakdown people have pretty much forgotten what I've been through lately I just feel like I should be cut a bit of slack!! Not to not work hard but understand why sometimes I'm overwhelmed.
I also just can't seem to forget or get over the fact my work place didn't even send a card it's making me so angry. Its actually making my want to be signed off with stress to leave them in the lurch (not like me at all) although they were good in Some ways the support hasn't been there after the initial week.
Some days are just tough and I'm reading lots of very helpful books and I'm just trying to do what I feel capable with and not pressurise myself into attending things I don't want to etc. They people seem to think I'm being dull but strangely enough I don't feel like having a party at the moment.
Part of me thinks well I must-have to just get on and another part of means think I just can't or I don't want to. Grief is a bizarre thing It must all be natural response and just shows how much I adored my Dad. People just don't get it unless they've been there I suppose.
Did anyone else feel angry about quite small things and feel like you would have been a better friend if you were not in this situation but they were. I actually don't know if I'm being hard on others and selfish or if actually people could just be a bit more understanding to me during the toughest time of my life.
Thanks for listening . I'd appreciate others thoughts.
Rosie xxx