we found out my dad had cancer in the summer when he was rushed to hospital and had a huge tumour in his colon removed together with his entire colon. He was fitted with an ileostomy bag. He was then doing ok. Back to his normal self. Then, about 5 weeks ago he found out that his cancer had spread and that it was terminal. 

Since then he has really changed. He’s depressed, emotional, anxious. He’s hardly eating. He’s breathless and tired all the time. He’s been into hospital twice because his kidneys have packed up because he’s not looking after himself. My mum is at her wits end and is struggling herself. 

To top it all off they’re in the middle of moving house which is going pear shaped and causing everyone more stress. 

I just wondered why he’s suddenly become ‘ill’ since hearing the news about his cancer and wonder if, at this stage, it’s more mental than physical. I just don’t know if I should be encouraging him to get upand do things or let him slump in his chair feeling sorry for himself. 

Any advice would be great. 

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