Hi Lisaloo79,

You may not feel you need the support, however there is another reason for taking someone with you. In my experience, when bad news is given the mind floats off in a fog of disbelief and you then miss anything that is said afterwards. So it's important that someone is there with you to listen to the relevant advice and ask (or prompt you to ask) any questions that haven't been already covered. By the time you've got home and the fog starts to clear you realise you didn't take in what was said to you and then that causes worry of it's own if no one was with you. 

Perhaps ask a friend, rather than a family member. Explain that you want them there in case you miss anything that's said. That way you don't have to worry any of your relatives. Hopefully the results will be good news & then you have someone to go for a celebratory drink with afterwards!

Angie (melanoma patient)

Hi Lisaloo79

It's a really difficult one to answer but I'm glad I did. The news, whilst you may already have a gut feeling about the results, will still come as a bit of a shock.  It did to me.  Depending on the results your doctor and Breast Cancer Nurse will have a wealth of information for you and it's possibly all a bit too much on your own to remember and take in.  Angie is correct in that another pair of ears helps with maybe taking in information you might miss.  

Good luck and I hope it's a negative result. 

Julie (Breast Cancer) 

Hi Lisalou

I went on my own to get my results, and in retrospect wish I hadn’t. I would echo what the others have said...if you hear bad news, even if you expect it, something happens to your brain and you find yourself unable to take everything in. Another pair of ears is so useful and I’ve taken my partner to every appointment since, which has been so good for picking up on things which I didn’t absorb. xx

Hi Angie.. so sorry I didn’t realise I had these replies but thank you very much for replying to me. I took my mum in the end and was glad I did as it was unfortunately bad news.. Iv been diagnosed with stage 2 breast cancer. I’m feeling worryingly calm and positive at the minute. I’m sure it will all hit me like a ton of bricks at some point. 

Thank you so much again for replying.. it’s nice to have someone that knows what your going through to talk to 

Lisa xxx

I'm so glad you took your mum but I'm sorry to hear about your diagnosis Lisa. Take some time to let the news sink in and don't be scared to ask any questions or ask for support. I hope your medical team get a treatment plan in place quickly and it's successful. We all here if you need us xx

Thank you Angie. Having this forum to talk to people who know what your going through is a big help xxx

I'm the same I'm going with my daughter but I want to know if its bad or good 

Hi I got my results yesterday. Unfortunately it wasn’t good news for me and I have been diagnosed with stage 2 breast cancer. Fingers crossed your results come back okay. It’s good to have someone there for support either way. My mum came with me in the end. 

Best wishes 

Lisa xx

Hi Lisaloo, I'm sorry it was a confirmed diagnosis.  It's rubbish and my best advice is not to set yourself any self expectations on how you are going to cope as you will have enough to deal with over the coming months. Stay positive (easier said than done some days I know).  It sounds relatively early caught so my fingers are crossed your plan is actioned quickly. 

Good luck and everyone is here for your coming months if you need anything :o) 

Julie x

Hi Lisaloo,
I am so sorry to hear that it wasn't good news yesterday, but I'm glad to hear that you took your mum with you in the end. It is always a good idea to bring someone with you if you are going to get the results of any tests.

Has your consultant discussed any treatment options yet? I imagine that your emotions are all over the place at the moment. This is perfectly normal. You will feel better once you start doing something about things and begin to move forward.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx