Hello 

Didnt want to read and run. Cancer is as big a strain on the family as the person suffering! Sounds to me like you need a mew counsellor- maybe give your gp a visit and tell them how your feeling and they could maybe set you up with someone to talk to.

As for your parents thats so sad. Im sure its so hurtful. Do you have any other family or friends who you could talk to?

I hope your husband gets some good news.

Sending hugs x

Hi there...

How could two parents with that outlook ... have had a wonderful daughter like you ...  and that counsellor needs a kick up the rear ... oh my ... how sad for you ... maybe one day those parents will need you, and you can give back what they gave you , nothing ... l know I don't know why your parents did that, but being a parent, means loving unconditionally. . There is nothing on this earth my lads could do, that I wouldn't forgive ...  my heart goes out to you ... have you siblings ... if not you come on here, you will always find a shoulder to lean on.. and a listening ear ... 

As for that counsellor ... I would put in an official complaint ... l went to a bad one years ago, that caused so much heartache to my son and l vowed never to go back ..  there are good ones out there ... it's finding them ... McMillan have a free phone,  you can call Mon to Friday ... so have the nurses on here .. their number is on this home page .. where you can chat to them, and I did this too at an early stage, and got lots of support ... that's 9 till 5 ...

Please look in your mirror and say, I am a good person going through a really tough time ... and I don't need people like that in my life ... you can do this ... there's always someone here .. it's like a big vertual family... and we know just how tough things are ..

Sending you a big hug ... Chrissie

Hi Suebe

sorry that you are feeling so alone but on here you can be yourself. I.m sure your husband will be fine and you can always come here and talk to everyone

I really don’t know what else to say to make you feel better expect maybe reach out to some close friends or phone the Smartians sometimes it is just easier to unload on a total stranger

i hope your husbands treatment goes well fingers crossed

take care all the best 

Parmz xx

You don't say how old you are and not too sure the type of cancer your husband has.When I first found out my partner of 25years had lung cancer stage 4 and no surgery was possible.Icried every day ,At first

But gradually youcome to terms with it and learn to live with it together.We worked together and our whole lives are just about ready two of us.

Also we both nursed my mother only 6 months earlier who slfi died of a thld of Cancer.

It will get easier.

Why can't you sleek to your parents you do t say Why.