Hi

Sorry to hear about your news 

You must feel devestated especially having 2 small children, be supportive ( obviously no doubt u will naturally) and talk about it, it will help you both, dont try and hide how you are feeling , share it all because you are both going through it.

Do your children know anything or are they really small ?

Zoe

Thanks zoe

they are 4 and 2 so the youngest won't get it but the eldest will in some form

only found out today so not spoke to him yet.

not sure whether to wait until after next Monday when we get biopsy results and treatment plan.

had convinced myself it was just a cyst which is probably why I'm struggling!

I would definatly wait for the results from the biopsy to make any decisions, but my best advice regarding the older child is be honest, obviously don't state the obvious and tell him something that will scare him but if she needs treatment etc tell him she isnt well and doctors  are trying to help her better, kids are really tough and are the best medicine, if he knows he will understand why u may feel down or sad and they will get you through this tough time.

I've just lost my mum 4  weeks ago and only had 3 days with her from diagnosis until she passed away and my kids 4 and 5 have been my saving grace, they keep me going when I don't wana get up and carry on.

It's hard being the one with the Illness but seeing someone you love dearly go through the worst time of their life is heartbreaking, if u ever want to talk without worrying them you can always message me 

Dont feel alone, and make every day count, with your children too, you don't wana think forward but if the worst result comes then make memeories for your children and yourself, make every minute worth living 

Zoe x

Thank you Zoe and really sorry for your loss

just this short conversation has helped so hopefully can sleep a bit easier

Your welcome take care

Hello Peter,

I am sorry to hear your wife has just been diagnosed. You must both still be in shock at the moment and I hope you woke up feeling ok today and that you managed to rest and get some sleep.

I am glad you have already heard from Zoe and that it helped a little bit to talk to someone. I thought I would also share this link from our website on talking to children about cancer which I hope will be helpful when you feel ready to have that conversation. 

Best wishes,

Lucie, Cancer Chat Moderator

Thanks lucie

still completely devastated and feeling empty this morning

dony think I'm coping 

Trying to be more positive now.

shes young fit healthy and it's only in one breast in one area and hasn't spread to lymph nodes so am hoping there is plenty to be hopeful about!

Hello Peter,

I am glad you are feeling a little better than you did this morning. It is very good news that she is young, fit and healthy and that it hasn't spread to the lymph nodes. Our forum is always here for you anytime you need to chat to others who understand how you are feeling at the moment.

If you want to talk to our cancer nurses and have any question for them at any point, you can also reach them on this free number 0808 800 4040, Monday to Friday from 9am to 5pm.

Best wishes,

Lucie, Cancer Chat Moderator

Can you give me some advice in private medical please?

we get the biopsy results on Monday and are willing to pay private for any care. How quickly would we be seen?