I lost my Mum suddenly nearly two months ago . She had secondary breast cancer but we were told she would live 10-15 years and she only got 3 years . I was aware her condition was deteriorating but she was still working and often making her own meals etc .
She went into the hospital as she was breathless and then three days later she was gone . I am so happy she was never fully bed bound as I could see her suffering and pain was increasing but I can't help but feel robbed of a life we were promised . It was so sudden which left a lot of questions unanswered .
Covid was tough and I mostly had to care for her when not feeling well / do the house work with little help from other family members . I am feeling guilt for not sitting with her more and keeping her company during COVID. I regret not holding her hand more and telling her how much I love her . I am relaying fights we had and how unfair I was . I am 25 and I also find it so daunting that I have to continue on my life without a Mum whilst everyone has theirs . Not only was she my Mum but she was a fantastic one , I loved her so much but because we lived together for so long I feel I didn't show her that .
Not only am I grieving the best Mum in the world but I'm grieving the life I thought we would have . My Dad is coping well because he has to and I feel he doesn't understand why I am so distraught a lot of the time . I will be fine for three days and then just cry for hours . It is quite debilitating . I'm being as honest as I can with others about how I'm feeling but none of my friends have been through this . I talk to family regularly but they don't live close but this does help a lot .