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Faulkie
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Hi All,

My dearest dad has been diagnosed with osephegus cancer - treatment plan chemo followed by surgery followed by chemo with a view to removing all the cancer.

As I am sure many of you experience is a wave of different emotions - he was diagnosed 3 weeks ago but feels like 3 years - we are a strong family unit and I know we will get through this. However for the last couple of days I have been feeling extremely angry and my patience is very thin - I have a super group of friends but when im out I just don't feel engaged in what's going on. The worst thing is to see my dad a very healthy energetic 67 be told he has cancer.

Sorry for my rant but have a little wobble at the moment hoping this anger feeling will fade!

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    Hi Faulkie,

    My own experience of cancer over the years has taught me is that life just isn't fair and it puts so many things into perspective. It also makes us realise just who our friends really are - with both good and bad surprises.

    Anger is part of the grieving process and we all need to go through it to some degree if we are ever going to get through without going crazy. As long as you don't internalise it and mentally beat yourself up it can be healthy. Find an outlet for it, even if that just means screaming out loud for a few seconds.

    All the best

    Dave

     

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    It's ok to be angry. I have learnt from caring for my husband that you need to have these emotions to be able to carry on. I used to fight against how I was feeling then it occurred to me if I take time out to embrace the way I was feeling. I could then get on and be the carer and be supportive to my husband as I should be. It's ok to cry, be angry and laugh. Embrace it then carry on is my motto.
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    Thanks Dave for your supportive words.

    Ive just read your story and what a inspiring one it is. 

    Dad had his pet scan this week wasn't due to see the consultant until the 5th April, they also wanted him to have a laproscopy - they have asked him to go in next week and before the laproscopy - so feeling extremely anxious - his intial CT scan staged him at 2/3 and tumour localised - worried trying to be positive but feeling it tough this week.

    Sending you warmest wishes

    Claire

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