Hi Christine,

This is the trouble with a cancer diagnosis. Everything happens so fast that it’s akin to being on a treadmill that you cannot get off. Your poor husband is going through a lot, but so are you. Unfortunately cancer affects not just the patient, but family members too.

 I have not had either chemo or radiotherapy myself, but I would imagine that having the two together must be particularly tough. I hope that it all goes well for him tomorrow and that his positivity continues. You are bound to worry about how he is going to cope. I can empathise with your sleepless nights, thinking of what might happen to him.

It is so hard to try and stop your brain from racing ahead. When my Mum was dying, I was so active trying to keep everything going throughout the day, that the early hours of the morning seemed to be the time for me to reflect on all that was happening or might happen. It was heart breaking.

I hope that treatment goes well and that it achieves its goal.

Thinking of and praying for you both.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx

Hi you, my hubby has stage four lung cancer and has just finished chemo, four weeks of radiotherapy next.  It's a struggle for all relatives going  through nd it is good he is positive nd you need to be too.  I have written a daily blog about how we have coped with this, love and laughter are the best medicine .  Stay Strong for both of you.  You re welcome to friend me if you want more help with coping.   Carol 

Thank you for your replies. We have two grown up children who are both really supportive and helpful but they have their own families, our beautiful grandchildren, who need their mums and dads to be there for them so we are mindful of that. I am a dreadful control freak and this is so far out of my control that I am having to get a grip on that also. Whoever said that life wasn't supposed to be easy certainly knew what they were talking about. I have seen some of your recent posts Carol and have thought how positive you sound, I am so sad that we all seem to be similar journeys. 

I have to keep reminding myself that we are not the only ones going through this and although I can't control any of it I can do my best to try and ensure that it doesn't beat us. 

Love and all my good wishes

Christine 

Hi Christine, thanks for replying.   I have accepted your friend request.   I chat most days so keep in touch.   Carol

Hi Christine,

I hope that all went well for your husband today.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx

Hi

We had a really long day on Monday, arrived at 8.30 to be greeted by the radiographer , he sent us up to chemo. While waiting for them to open (at 9) had a phone call from radiotherapy to go back there first. Down we go again and my husband had a chat and then had his first treatment. Back up to Chemo, it took them 2 hours to get his blood results from our local hospital , chemo finally started at noon, first day takes just over 5 hours so back to radiology at 5.50 for second treatment . Finally got back home at 7.45 last night. Back to the hospital for 8 this morning and then second treatment at 2.45 , back home today at 4 so better than yesterday . Only 2 and a half more weeks of this and then a final cycle of chemo. So far so good. 

Thanks for thinking of us

Christine

So pleased this went better than expected.   They are long days, just concentrate on you two and be selfish for a change, I told my family that if they came to stay they had to not impose themselves on our routine and it worked. Stay strong Christine.   Carol

Hi Carol

I am lucky that my children live near enough to pop in , when we got home last night my daughter was here and had dinner all in the oven ready to be dished up and a slice of cake that my eldest grandson had made earlier. We are swapping roles on Thursday and she is going to the hospital with her dad and I am going to spend the day with the boys. Everyone wins in that situation, I love being with them as much as she loves to be with her dad. Girls and their dads, a special bond. My son is taking us to the hospital on Friday so we are really lucky that we have such thoughtful children. I am counting my blessings. 

Love to you and yours.

Christine. 

Hi Chrstine,

Thank you for the update. It sounds as if you had quite a day yesterday. How did your husband cope with it? - I would have been asleep after so long at the hospital. I am glad to hear that today was a little better.

It is good to discover that your children are both helping you out and also that you are still managing to spend some time with your grandchildren. We have just returned from seeing our grabdchildren, who live 400  miles away from us. I wish that they were nearer, but it is always a treat to see them and to be able to act normally with them for a few weeks.

I hope that the treatment continues to go well for your husband and I am sure that you will be glad when the next 2½ weeks are behind you.

Thinking of you both.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx