Sorry to hear you have just lost your dad. I can imagine how difficult Sunday is for you. The shops are full of gifts and cards for Dad’s! I have just lost my darling mum and I have said many times recently that I am glad it’s wasn’t nearly Mother’s Day so I really feel for you. 

Today I had a long chat with my mum. I don’t know if you’ve tried doing the same but it does help. Take yourself away and tell him things out loud. If you know him inside out as I knew Mum, you will just know what his reaction would be to the things you tell him. 

This is my 1st experience of losing a parent and it’s only 4 weeks ago for me, but I have had significant losses in life. I adored both my maternal grandparents and I lost my best friend to cancer when she was only 19. I can tell you with certainty that it does get easier. I would be lying if I said the pain goes away, but it does ease. 

I feel mum all around me, I’m sure your dad is always by your side too.....and always will be x

I'm so sorry. I know how hard it is. I'm learning a year after losing my mum that certain times of the year are probably always going to be hard. For you, Father's Day will be hard. But that's ok. It shows that you had a good strong bond. You can try to do something nice in honour of him, like enjoy a cake with your loved ones. Sometimes the days leading up to the painful anniversary end up being more painful than the actual day, if that makes sense. I hope that will be the case for you. Sending you kind wishes.

Hi dates hurt .its not very long .why not just have a day with your mum have a chat blub whatever you want she will want company to time does make the pain dwindle but not on its own i ilway suggest counciling not a madgic bullet but anything that helps is worth doing i lost mum and dad a long time ago but i lost my partner just over a year ago and it helped me .so sorry about your dad its a cruel disease best wishs to you and your mum and hope sundays not to bad its more the dredd of it than the actual day .sometimes paul

I too lost my dad only 3 months ago , my best friend , my hero , I feel so lost and alone without him , I miss our chats , he always knew the right words to comfort me . Noone has and ever will come close to my dad and cry so much for him in the fact that I couldn't save him and I tried so hard . I've made bad decisions since his passing and I hope he can forgive me and understand my reasons . I always wanted him to be proud of me and I feel I've let him down in so many ways . Iam dreading the thought of father's Day , it's the first of everything since his death that makes it so hard .

Hi i felt the same way when i lost my partner that i felt so guilty because i i couldnt save her then i realised how could i fight an evilil dises like that and if the drs with all that training could how on earth could i so try and put that out of your head that just grief part of it seems to be cripeling guilt i i blamed myself for the most stupid things totaly ilogical things .three months love its not long and your emotionaly exhausted  sounds like talking to a bereavement counciler might help . They can put the guilt thing in perspective for you worth a try but as the months go by and you start to use the lodgical part of your brain again and not the emotional side you will start to loose thoes guilt feelings so just take it as it comes we all think its going to hurt this way forever but the pain does dwindle sorry about your dad .paul

Thankyou so much for yout houghts and kindness , best wishes to you also , I have learnt since my dad's death , that the world has changed so much , people are so selfish . Noone seems to be genuine anymore , just when you need some kindness and compassion they want to knock you down further . I get so angry at people who I consider friends that don't take the time out to see if I'm ok , it's the little things that count to me . It's made me feel so let down by everyone , my dad was a well respected gentleman , loved by all that knew him , I turned to him for advice in everything I did , now I'm lost and feel dead inside .

Hi not all off them some are rubbarb otheres step up i think this has been talked about a lot on here you find out who your true friends are but the world seems a much harder place than it is looks at all the the care your dad has had its not such a bad place but your in a dark place right now .and you and your mum will be suffering far more than anyone else as i said as when a loved one dies we revert to emotional thinking but as we move along in our grief we start to think more lodgicaly and start to think why am i blaming myself heres an example my partner liz was retired but since childhood she alway slep with a hankie well liz had a stroke after chemo in all the comotion running around i gave her a tissue i managed to pop home when my son visited got he a nightie and stuff you know how you ladies are hopital night clothes are not very stylish .well i rememberd the hankies but you know when i got back i was so busy i forgot she couldnt talk .and do you know i knocked myself out for months now most people would think why on earth does he feel like that just a hankie but i had my emotional head on but as the months went bye and started thinking more logicaly and realised its the grief so hold on to the fact that any guilt will go and dont feel bad thats why i suggest counciling you can run  things that you feel by the counciler they will explain better than i can ime not trained but ive lost a lot of loved ones so ive had a lot of expierances and a lot like you you will be ok so just take it one day at a time maybe do a little diary every day how you feel then when you look back you will see  how your thinking has changed so chin up it does get eisier and all those guilt feelings will dwindle away youve shown the love you had for your dad by just coming on here and telling us what a great guy he was and sounds like a good peson he was and how much a good person you are .i hope todays tot been to bad .best wishs paul

thank you .. we lost my mum 7 weeks before we lost dad so its been horrendous x

hello

dads always forgive as long as we learn a lesson and do better so dont beat yaself up about it, 

i didnt go to the grave like my sister and brothers i just hid away and pretended it was just another Sunday x 

Oh my lovely.....how horrific! That’s unbelievably tough! Hope yesterday wasn’t too terrible. Hope you have other supportive family around you. Am thinking of you. This is a good place to chat with those who understand so look me up for a vent if you need to x