not something we ever thought of doing.we thought we had plenty of years together ahead of us.we were planning moving to Brixham in Devon before retirement,as we loved holidaying down there and enjoyed every minute down there.Apart from me wanting get a bench put in Brixham, with a memorial plaque, i cannot see myself holidaying down there ever again.to many memories that will trigger my emotions.
Hi again you could still get a bench put somewhere she liked somewhere were you can sit down with her think about the good things. We never forget the loved ones they are always there in the heart. Things do get easier over time, but they are always there with us in our thoughts and what we do. Best wishes.
its taking ages get a decision from trustees looking at Jaynes pension,which i had fill forms in for,looks like i might not get chance stay in the house were i lived with Jayne for over 20 years.its a never ending nightmare.
Hi ian did you go to cab and probate solicitor if not you need to mate you need to get your stuff out of that house if you dont it becomes part of the estate . Ime a dad myself ive lost a gramchild and the pain was terrible so can imagine jaynes mum being beside herself with grief as we are not ment to outlive our children if i ere you i would right a sympathy letter to her saying this its not what jayne wanted and we should all grieve together . It sucks i i know but its all about protecting yourself .p
Hi Ian... I know just how you feel. I lost my wonderful husband to cancer in January. He fought for 6 years. My grief is just dreadful. I feel I cant live without him. I put on such a happy face for friends but inside I have this hurt and ache that will never go away. You havent said how old you are and whether you have a life ahead of you? Jayne, if all you say of her is true, would want you to go on bravely. Please try. You owe it to her to carry on. Please take care of yourself dear. She would want you to. You are not alone Ian. There will be many like you and I who feel so devastated and alone. I can not hope that time will heal but believe that, in time, things will be different. Please remember you are not alone.xxx
hi Paul.ive given things to friends etc.special things of Jaynes will never leave me till im gone myself.as regards Jaynes mum i wont be contacting her in the near future,ive just taken her nastyness to much and not given anything back.as regards her loss im sorry but the write up in the paper about Jaynes funeral,showed me she as very little if any feelings for her daughter,having heard her pathetic excuses for not showing Jayne an ounce of love in the write up in the paper, made me physically sick and showed what an heartless lady she is.hence i had to for Jayne and myself write an article showing Jayne lots of love and how proud i was of her achievements and being loved and in love with Jayne.and showing that she appreciatted all her friends and they thought a lot of jayne.
im a 54 year old man who was madly inlove for 28 years with the lady who rocked my world,im not able control my emotions as ive lost my best friend lover and soul mate,who made me feel like the luckiest man ever to set foot on earth.Jayne was everything a man could ever want in a partner.and im missing her more than i thought humanly possible.im having bereavement couselling,or i was sadly the counsellor as been away last 2 weeks and my next session is next week,i need it big time,i know i wont ever get over losing Jayne,but maybe theres a small chance that i will learn live to without jayne being with me.
Hi ian its a difficult lonely road your on ime on it myself but its a year now for me so ime back to the logical thinking not emotional ive seen how it effects others its sad you have to deal with this as well as loosing the love of your life its shameful in this day and age that nothings been dóne to change the way long term partners are treated by the law but sometimes there are loopholes in probate laws only probate solicitor's know but i wish you well on your journey . Paul
its a sad world ,im lost as to why friends of my partners Jayne,say they will be there if i need anything,yet totally ignore me.sadly i had no reasons not to give Jaynes mum phone numbers of Jaynes friends,little did i realise she hadnt ever liked me,so now im living and learning the hard way, to not trust anyone just on face value.
