Hi Claudia 

Didn’t want to just read and run. The strain illness puts on families is immense, people dealing with so many complex emotions. Having been through it myself I have to admit I have fallen out with family members, I resented the offhand remarks about my cancer/breasts, I am angry that the novelty wore off after my surgeries and I was left to deal with subsequent treatment/hospital appointments on my own and I was angry that out of a very large family I was the one that got cancer. I also lost a couple of male friends, they did not know how to deal with it so ran away. That made me feel that my breasts were more important to them than I was and now self conscious about them.

It can be very lonely journey, even if surrounded by loved ones if none of them haven’t been through cancer themselves.

i think your husband is hurting and feels he can take his frustration out on you cause your the one who loves him most. I guess I would tell him you know how frustrated/angry he must feel about everything and that you love him and want to support him but that he has to keep talking so you know how he’s feeling. I think you also need support through this, McMillan run drop in clinics where I am for families, are there any in your area? I hope things get better for you both x