ER+, PR+, HER2+, ALREADY HAVE M.E., SCARED OF CHEMO

Hi,

I'm Helen and was diagnosed with breast cancer (30mm lump) on April 17th. Since then, I've had a long wait for the receptor results as the HER2+ test had to be retested which all took over 5 weeks. I've been terrified it has been spreading ever since, timie seems to be gloing and I feel like a ticking time bomb. Struggled when the HER2+ result came in as until then I had been told it was probab;y a lumpectomy and a week of radiotherapy. Now it's 18 weeks of chemo, lumpectomy, radiotherapy and hormone therpay for 5-10 years. I'm coping a bit better now it's sunk in and I've closed down my private practice (I'm a counsellor) and resigned myself to the fact that this year and maybe some of next year will be dedicated to this fight. My children are both taking exams at the moment (my son is taking his finals and my daughter her A Levels) and I have my house on the market as I was supposed to be moving to Oxfordshire to be close to both my children whilst at uni.

I suffer with mild M.E. with the main symptoms for myself being fatigue and a lowered immunity, so one of my biggest concerns is I'll be able to cope with the chemo and survive it basically, and my body will be able to recover from the battering it has sustained too. Has anybody been through this process with mild post viral fatigue syndrome (M.E.) or underlying health conditions, and if so, what did you find helped? I have already changed my diet to a high fish, soya, plat based protein, green salad and vegetables, low fat diet, drinking more fluids every day and am trying to relax more and accept help -something I'm not great with!

My Mum died 26 years ago from this dreadful disease  at a similar age to me (diagnosed at 48, I'm just 50) and it does feel like history is repeating itself. I'm trying to stay positive and can genuinely see massive differences in treatment and the general understanding of the disease compared to what my Mum received. It's hard not to think I'm going to go the same way, this is what I have been dreading for 30 years.

I'm starting chemo the back end of next week or the following week, once a clip is put in tomorrow and a heart scan next Weds. Dreading it, scafred of it but also want it to get going now too. I'm going to give the cold cap a go too, to see if I can keep my hair as it will help my mental health moving through this. Any advice on what to expect and any tips on making it work, would be really appreciated.

I've found reading all the posts truly inspirational and have taken comfort from everybody's strength and journeys. We are all amazing women, proud of eveyone of us.

Thanks for reading -I have gone on a bit!

Best wishes to everyone,

Helen.

  • Hello Helen, welcome! I'm sorry to hear about your diagnosis - it is such a stressful time. I just wanted to wish you well with the start of your treatment. I'm 50 too, coming to the end of treatment (lumpectomy and radiotherapy), trying too to improve my diet (had more blueberries in the past month than in the past 50 years!!) and to not get so stressed about everything - this I am finding hard as I'm naturally quite a vigilant person as my husband would say. There are several members on here who have a triple positive diagnosis and can offer practical advice but, in the meantime, take care and I hope your children's exams are going well xx

  • Hi.

    Thank you so much for taking the time to reply, and for your kind words and support. Hope you're doing okay as you have moved through your treatment plan. Nearly there now, coming to the end of it all, which is great. A lumpectomy and radiotherapy is what the doctors thought would be my plan, until the HER2+ curveball which I knew meant chemo first.

    Blueberries -hadn't thought of them, might add them into my healthy eating regime. It's been spinach, watercress, rocket, broccoli and fish. Amazed I haven't turned green with it all! Must be doing me some good, and I guess I'm trying to control the bits I can control which is a better feeling than being in freefall.

    The children are absolute troopers, carrying on with everything in spite of all this stress and pressure. I'm v proud of them. 

    Thanks for your support and good wishes. I'm sending the same back to you, and yippee to the end of your treatment soon.

    Helen.xx

  • Hello Helen 

    welcome 

    I'm sorry you have had a diagnosis, I had breast cancer last July I had lunpectomy then 2 nd op removing 30 nodes then radiotherapy now take tamoxifen im Due in a few weeks for my first annual check .

    just wanted to say it's a rollercoaster I no I bedn on it but to say I'm off it now and feel absolutely amazing had my high and low points you will too but all I can say is big pants on put up that fight you will smash it 

    big hugs to you I wish you all the luck in the world akways here to chat and help if I can 

    loveata Heart

  • Thanks Helen. Yes, diet is something we have some control over, which does make you feel better. I have an allotment so trying to grow a few different things in there (slugs usually get there before me though!!) Xx

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     Case 

    how are you doing on radiotherapy lovely has it finished yet and how are you feeling hood it's going well 

    love Lara Heart

  • Hi Laraj

    how are you ?   
    just sent you a friends request 

    Originally called ozzyt. But somehow deleted profile and had to re join xxx 

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    Hi there Lara! Thanks very much - just back from my third session - two more to go and no side-effects... yet!! I hope your check-up goes really well xxx

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    Case 

    that's amazing I'm so happy nearky there 

    yes my annual check coming soon I think it's next month I'm dreading the letter as I don't want to go back to dates it's a mixed emotion looking forward to it in a way but dread too , but I no deep down all will be good positive positivity Heart

    party here for you next week big hugs love Lara Heart