My Mum is in hospital after being diagnosed with pneumonia, with underlying Stage 4 Lung Cancer, spread to the lymph nodes. The hospital has been treating the pneumonia with antibiotics but I have had to fight to get the Palliative care team involved as they didn't appear to be concerned with Mum's very obvious deterioration. Mum is very 'uncomfortable', sleepy, very slurred speech and eats nothing. Mum drinks very little so I have had her put on a drip for rehydration as that was a major concern daily. Mum has been in hospital for 13 days now and we are waiting for a Palliative bed closer to home. I have read everything I can about this illness and symptoms and have fough for her to be put on morphine, which she is now receiving and has made a massive impact on her, but her quality of life is low.
I teach trainee nurses and they keep asking if Mum is on End of life care (being anything less than a year to live apparently?) and I am not sure tbh.
I would also be interested in knowing what's coming. I am now in contact with the MacMillan nurses who answer some of my questions but I am the type of person who, without the aid of a crystal ball which I know is not available, needs to know what is coming. Mum's prognosis three weeks ago was less than a month, which I am of course not holding anyone to, but given Mum's current condition I wondered if anyone else could tell me, in their experience and more straightforward than a nurse can say without fear of compensation claims, what is coming up now. How long can she go on without eating? What new symptons should I be looking out for? What happens closer to the end? Any advice is welcomed, I don't want the flowered up version, I would prefer to hear the real version from someone who has lived or is living the same nightmare I am. Thanks xx