Hi there, welcome to the forum, but sorry you are here for the reason that you are. I wish there was something I could say to make this go away for all of you, but of course there isn't. What can one say at a time like this? It seems like everything comes crashing down on you all at the same time and you wonder why that is. I can say this however, that this kind of thing does happen in a lot of families unfortunately, but we often don't hear about all of it. Once the shock of it all simmers down, we just pick ourselves up and get on with the business of dealing with it. We often don't know our own strength until we face something of this nature.

It sounds like you may have other family members there to help and support you in doing what they can to assist in caring for your in-law parents. Your father-in-law obviously has what he needs in place right now, so taking care of your mother-in-law is probably the most pressing thing. There really isn't anything to do, but support her through her scans and medical apts. right now. Once you have a better idea of the situation, her medical team will be better prepared to help you to help her. Until then, take care of her and one another and your combined strength will see you through this challenging time.

Good luck and come back on to the forum to let us know how you get along and how your in-law parents are doing. This forum is really caring and supportive and people here will help you through this.

Take care.

Lorraine