Hi there, and welcome to our little chat room...

There's lots of us breast lasses on here... so your not alone ... l had a masectomy in July 2017 ... with a grade 3 lump .. l dont know how large it got, but it was close to comming through the skin .. 

Wer all different, and treatments seem to varey widely ... l was offered either lumpectomy or masectomy. .  I plumped for a masectomy, to make sure they got it all out .. but looking back the scariest time was where you are now .. the unknown is overwhelming ... and all the "what ifs" creep in .. 

But my daughter in law sat us down, and said no more panicking,  no more what ifs .. no looking to far ahead .. and we'll take one problem as and when it comes up ... and we'll do it together ... and true to her word, she was by my side through everything ... and that was the best advice l ever had ..

Hopefully other breast lasses will pop by and show support to you too ... they are the most amazing wonderful ladies you'll ever know on here ..  if you look on the thread "the good and the bad" you'll see all their journeys ... and they make anyone welcome to join in ... there's one thing we all have in common .. kicking cancers butt .. this journey isn't being brave ... it's about being scared witless but still moving on .. that's brave ... so welcome to our safe place, where you can share anything ... and someone will KNOW just how you feel ... cancer wants to brake us, but together wer strong ... 

Sending you a vertual hug... chrissie xx

Hi and welcome,

So sorry to hear your diagnosis.  So glad you found this site.

i was diagnosed last week and waiting in staging.  I was so scared but now I am not. The reassurance  and support I have found in this site have kept me going.  

Just know you’re not alone.  We are all at different places on our path, but if you stumble and need a helping hand.......there will be many on here to cheer you on.

xx

Hi

I've just been diagnoised with high grade DCI I have a date for my surgery and then I'll have reconstruction surgery. It all  happened very fast and everyone has been supportive but I'm frightened and would really like to know if the cells may just stay as they are and I could avoid surgery completely. I'm into alternative therapies and I do feel that stress and unhappiness as brought this on. Does anyone have a view on whether a change of lifestyle could avoid surgery or no precancerous cells always turn into cancer?

Hi there ...

Oh my hunny .. think very carefully before deciding on no surgery ... yes you can look into other things like changing your diet too .. I've done that myself .. and add turmeric and black pepper when I can to foods .. cut out sugar .. eat fresh veg ... there's lots that would help your health ...

But leaving that lump in there .. I'd left mine, thinking the same as you .. when it showed up on an chest x ray .. it had grown and was close to comming through the skin .. once that happens we get a strong smell from it that won't go ... so to me it was a no brainer ... and looking back, the masectomy was the easiest part of my journey ... l was surprised how so little pain could come from a big scar ... others have said the same ...  

I'm sure I'd not be here talking to you if I'd left it ... the scariest part of it all was the waiting for the op to happen ... but like me, you have to make your own decision ... only you can do that ..

It's not about being brave .. it's about feeling scared witless but still doing it ... that's brave ..

Wer all here for you .. you'll always get a hand to hold every step of the way ...it's not a walk in the park , but it is doable .. and any feelings you get, let them out ... I cried for a whole day on my own as I couldn't see any one .. I needed to get my around it all .. l came out ready to put my vertual boxing gloves on and get in the ring with it ... I learned how to punch cancer back ... 

Sending you a vertual hug ... chrissie

Hi there, I too had ductal grade 2 carcinoma, the plan was swift and quick, lumpectomy jan, chemo Feb....I had chemo because I was. Her2 pos....and I want to reduce my chances of this ever coming back.

you will find us a lovely bunch on here...we're always here for one another....let us know how it all goes? Xxxx

Hello, oh that's a biggy, it's such a personal choice...but I'm with the lovely chriss on this one....too many ifs and buts, as soon as I knew I had a lump I couldn't wait to get it out, it felt like a gremlin festering in there...and boy the relief when it was done...and with clear margins......

have a good think....weigh it all up....and if you can have a chat with your cancer nurse 

good luck in finding the right path for you xxxx

Oh my lovely.......there is no bigger believer than me in healthy living, supplements, complementary therapies than me and my daughter. 

I am also recently diagnosed.  I have never heard it so succinctly put as......a gremlin festering in there.  I can’t wait for my surgery and have promised myself to eat a Mediterranean diet. I work long, hard hours and exercise wasn’t something I relished when getting home.  But that ‘gremlin’ is not coming back.

i strongly believe, always have, in health prevention.  But now, my lovely, would be the time to really give lots of thought to diagnose and treat.  

xx