Hi Troffer,

I am sorry to read about your sister. Over ten years ago my mother was in a similar state but she was in hospiutal and at the end in a hospice. You are so right about how hard it is seeing someone you love suffer. It makes you feel so helpless too. My mother slowly deteriated to a point she wasnt concoiuse But I used to talk to her while holding her hand and every now and then she would sqeeze my hand as if to say she heard what I said.

Please keep in contact so we can try and support you.

Sending kind thoughts your way, Brian

Thank you for your reply means a lot. Spoke to.her today on the phone let her vent and cry it all out. 

hello I lost my mum November 16th last year she had secondary bone cancer she was in hospital 6 days and I won't lie she suffered a lot but when they sorted out the right morphine and sedation in the syring driver she was unconscious for the last few hours it is very scary to see and hear her breathing but she also had server pneumonia so made it sound worse I'm always here if you need aa chat x

Hello

I am terribly sorry to read about your sister.

It is hard, it is unfair, it is very sad.

When my mum was given 8 weeks, I was numb and shellshocked. It is heartbreaking, but you need to show strength for your sister and lean on your family at home for your support. I have to admit I was physically and mentally exhausted as I nursed my mum for the 8 weeks in a different country. But now on reflection I would not change a thing, other than of course my mum not having cancer in the first place. These forums are a support system that are invaluable. Cry, shout, scream and let it out at home, then you will have the strength to be in control when you see your sister. My mum was never in pain as she had a syringe driver in her for pain control. Maybe this is something you could mention to your sister when the time is right. My prayers and thoughts are with you. Stay strong x