Hi Gtn, 

I'm really sorry to hear about your father and what you are going through at the moment. I can't imagine how tough this must be for you right now but if you can try and make the most of time you have left together and just let him know you are there for him. It may not sound like much but it will really provide your father with a lot of comfort and support just knowing you are there.

I also wanted to let you know that many members of the cancer chat community have also been in the same situation with their friends and loved ones and I'm sure they will post soon to offer their support and advice.

Stay strong Gtn and remember that we are here for you if you need us and you will get through this.

Best Wishes, 

Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator

Thank you so much 

Hi gtn,

I am going through this with my Dad right now. Although he is not at hospital, I am his carer at home. It is hard, so hard and you know what nothing we say can ease your pain. Know that there is support here (I've needed it myself) and just being able to sound off can help you release the internal "pressure" 

Your father sounds like he's been an amazing dad to you and you must be a wonderful son in return, I hope that brings some comfort to you at this hard time. 

Hi Kin.Thank you for your support. I hope your mum gets better. I just didn't know where to turn to and by having people like you that understand it makes me feel as I'm helping dad. Thank u.

Kernowgirl, you made me cry when I read the sentence ( sounds like your father was amazing to you) it is absolutely true. He wasn't just my father,he is my best friend. I hope your father doesn't suffer with pain. 

Hi gtn, oh I'm sorry I didn't mean to make you cry. Although sometimes a good cry can help. My dad has good and bad days, today hasn't been a good day but the nurses are great and we are constantly changing his medication to find the best for him. He is my best friend too, my shield and it's been an adjustment to now have to be his carer. But we here are all going through similar experiences and can support each other 

Kernowgirl, thank you for your support.i really do appreciate it. My dad has been very ill 2 today, just last week we were on a great holiday and at this moment I'm holding his hand while he is in so much pain. Pls be strong yourself.

Hi

im so sorry for you and your poor father, I had my dads funeral Friday and am still in shock. He was fine until about 8 weeks ago just feeling tired, they said he had the flu which got worse, he ended up in hospital and was told he had pancreatic cancer and had 3 to 6 months and died a 3 weeks later. He couldn't accept it and would have no pain relief. Sending you lots of love x

Gtn, I'm here if you need support,  such a hard time for us both and many others,   If you're  like me I'm struggling with my feelings, being able to accept it.    Being able to chat things through I hope will help,   Unfortunately my mum will not get better,  all I can do is help her in her final days,  which in my head is not going to happen. I hope your bearing up ok well as much as you can.   I've not posted on this forum before but felt I needed to on your post.   Also I feel I hugely need the support