Hi,  it is still extremely early days following the passing of your mum so I am not surprised that there are times when you are understandably upset and recalling the most difficult and sad moments immediately after she passed.  It takes time and the amount is different for everyone but there will always be times when grief feels overwhelming.  I am two years on from losing my husband and whilst on the whole I am getting on ok there are still times when thinking back makes me upset. I do not think there are specific ways of gaining strength but eventually I found a way to focus on the wonderful memories rather than the upsetting ones.   Talking on the forum helped too. 

Hope you feel a little better for sharing.  Jules54

thanks Jules x

how old was your husband?

Hi

Sorry for your loss, i also have just lost myum after a very quick aggressive cancer and i looked after her most of the time and after she passed away i went back to her home to see her and have since visited her at the chapel of rest,  i still don't know how to feel or what is normal but taking each day as it comes 

Zoe

hi Zoe.

how did you feel seeing her at the Chapel of Rest? i did this also x

Hi

My husband passed away a couple of months short of his 64th birthday and was at home.  His cancer journey lasted almost three years.   Jules 

Hello Jack,

Me, my Dad and my sister were sat with my Mum when she died of cancer a few years ago. It was exactly as she had planned it, pain-free, at home and surrounded by family. We were all very sad to see her go, but this was mixed with relief that she hadn't suffered much pain or anxiety in her final days.

As Jules has said, it is still early days for you and it will take time to come to accept things and begin to move on with your life.

Best wishes
Dave

im missing my Mum more now than the 2-3 weeks after she died :(

hi Zoe - what type of cancer did your mum have? x

I saw my mum minutes after she died, for days I ouldnt get that image out of my head. I deided iwouldnt see her in the funeral parlour but my dad felt i should so i did. Im gladI did because she looked so peaceful and painfree. X

Hi

Mum was diagnosed with lung cancer but also metastatic brain cancer, she got her results tues 7th and passed away early hours of Friday 10th 

Zoe 

Well i thought it would help to make me realise what is happening but it hasn't, i was glad I saw her but she was changing over the 3 times I saw her, it isn't nice but when it's such a close family member you can see passed the reality of what you are looking at and look at them as your loved one at peace 

Zoe