My husband and I have been married for almost 20 years. We have been dealing with skin cancer since 2004, and we have been dealing with it internally since 2015. Now, it has spread internally, and we are just adjusting to the reality that this is a terminal illness. He had a transplanted kidney and pancreas, but those transplanted organs are dying now because he needs to get his immune system back to help fight the cancer. He had his left leg amputated below the knee back in 1999, and he just had his entire left arm and shoulder amputated in 2017 due to the cancer. He has to have dialysis three times a week, takes insulin to control his blood sugar, walks with a cane, and is legally blind. I have been taking care of him for nearly 22 years, so I am used to it. My problem is with his family. They live 3000 miles away from us, and I have always been expected to take him to see them. Now that he is dying, we expected his family would come visit him especially since he needs dialysis, is missing two limbs, and can't see. Well, today he called his parents and his sister. None of them will come out to see him, and his sister asked why I can't take him there. There is a very small part of me that thinks I should just give in and take him no matter the level of sacrifice it will cost us to do it, but most of me is just so angry with these people. They have no idea of the level of pain they are causing him. In our minds they are telling a dying man that they don't care enough to overcome whatever obstacles necessary to see him one last time. We don't know how long he has, but there is no time like the present to come visit since he is doing well right now. I have to keep telling myself not to get involved otherwise the family will just focus on me and blame me for the reason they will not come. I want this to be all on them. I am just not quite sure what to do. Thanks for reading my post and letting me vent.