Hi there Antoni, welcome to the forum as a poster, rather than a reader, and I mean that in a positive way. I am so sorry for your loss in the death of your Mom. I can just imagine how difficult it is for you with your Dad trying to "drown his sorrow" with alcohol. Unfortunately, your ability to get your Dad to stop drinking is not likely going to work. My Dad was an alcoholic and when he, himself was diagnosed with cancer, I did most of his caretaking. His drinking was a real source of agony for me, but he very kindly told me he wasn't going to stop drinking. Granted, he had been an alcohol before his diagnosis, and his cancer was terminal, but having said that, eventually, I was the one that contolled how much he drank because physically, he was unable to get his drink of choice. I did make it possible for him to have a drink or two each day and he did meet me half way on that, since I was the one who took him to his medical apts. and made sure he had his meals, etc. My Mom was working outside the home and for financial reasons, she was unable to be home with him, or take him for his medical apts. (Besides which, she did not drive and they didn't have a car.)

I shared my personal experience with you to let you know that I can commisserate with your predicament. Perhaps you can make a deal with your Dad where you can meet somewhere in the middle. Find a situation that you agree on a compromise where he doesn't give it up completely, but will confine it to one or two drinks a day. At least find a starting point for a compromise between you. I'm sure you both are hurting at the loss of your Mom and his life partner and your Dad's drinking to excess, is making life a lot harder for you. Perhaps your Dad's family doctor can offer some assistance here, and maybe counselling can help also, if your Dad would agree to attend. I know you are finding this difficult, but hopefully, you won't have to reach a point where you desert your Dad at a time that is really difficult for him. Good luck with it and come back on here to get support for yourself and let us know how things go for you.

Take care. Sending hugs.

Lorraine