Hi,
We just found out 3 weeks ago today that my dad has liver cancer which has spread to his lungs. It is TERMINAL and cannot be treated. My dad who lives abroad came to visit me and arrived on 18th January. Some few hours after his arrival he was taken to the emergency because he didn't feel quite well. A day later, the doctors were struggling to keep him alive as his system was shuting down. I was told that his blood oxygen was low, liver enzymes were up?! Dad spent a total 21days in the specialist hospital only for us to find out on the 1st he had cancer.
We have been told surgery is out of the question because the cancer has covered the whole left lobe of his liver and attached to the pectoral vein. Chemo or radiotherapy wont work and an alternative method (some form of injection) can work because of how the cancer is. All we have been told is palliative care. Unfortunately, I and my mum are caring for him and I have been strong for him however, a bit difficult to continue to car as I have to work and have a 4 year old too.
He recently went back in to get the fluids in his tummy drained and stayed another 5nights or so. The truth is, I don't feel like we have been properly cared for especially since we saw his consultant (well met his registrar) who showed us my dad's scan and told us there is no help and he has possibly months.
Although, my dad is showing a positive attitude but he is worried about the cost of his treatment and the debt we are in given that NHS will charge him 150% of the cost. We have no clue how much a night stay is and haven't been given the information yet (I have tried asking but no one seems to know).
Dad is that person who would always pay his bills but now I am also worried that him worrying about bills will hasten the inevitable. Understandably, he wants to return to Nigeria as he has said he doesn't want to die in a foreign land or create more expenses for me (he is very thoughtful) however He seems to have good days and bad days. For 1 week plus after being discharged, he battled with diarrhoea due to antibiotics given to help fight the infection he had when he first went in. I'm not sure if I'm making sense anymore but I wish to God there is something I can do. I know he is in pain and I've seen him in pain, we have no access to palliative care team and I feel going it alone is a lot of responsibility to take in. I just need help towards the right direction moving forward.
We believe in God and at the moment having to increase our faith is all we can do.
I am sorry for ranting