Dad is deteriorating so fast I am struggling to watch

Hi.

We found out only 7 weeks ago that my Dad has terminal cancer in his stomach and lungs, and doesn't have long left with us.  But we had no idea just how fast this would take hold and how my Dad would go from a big strong man to a tiny , frail , fragile little thing now in a nursing home, barely able to do anything now except sleep. He may utter the odd word to us , which is just a slight whisper now, & he can't stand, eat or drink unaided, & now his eyes are failing to focus too.

I can't believe my Dad has been taken over so quick after we were told & I am struggling so very VERY much now. I don't know who to turn to for support as I am not only going through this with my dear Dad, but also my husband is now having tests done too as his bowels are not right & our GP is VERY concerned about him as he lost his Dad, his Aunt & both grandparents to bowel cancer.  He is going into alcohol rehab in next couple of weeks too for 6 weeks so I am going to be alone with all this going on. If Dad loses his battle while hubby in there then he will only be allowed out for the actual funeral service then straight back again after as he will have a staff member with him , that's IF they have enough staff to cover that day.

I feel so mixed up and alone & don't know how I am going to get through the toughest journey of my life.

  • Thank you for sharing your story DADDYKINS48 what you are going through is terribly difficult. As you say, it will be one of the toughest journeys of your life watching your dad deteriorating so fast while your hubby is away and himself undergoing investigations.

    I just wanted to send you a virtual hug and let you know that we are all here for you at any time of the day or night. I hope you have some friends or family around you to keep you company or have a cup of tea with you (and biscuits!) when it all gets too much. Make sure you reach out to others and don't feel too isolated as it is a lot for one person to bear.

    Keep us updated when you can as to how things develop. I hope everything turns out to be fine for your husband too and that the alcolhol rehab is beneficial to him.

    Warmest wishes during these challenging times,

    Lucie, Cancer Chat Moderator