Theres a really complicted background to my family but my parents divorced when I was little and hated each other. I havent been talking/seeing my dad for the past several months b/c of other family drama around him but before that, (almost 2 yrs ago now?) I had been seeing him regularly and living w/ him on the weekends. and now I found out a couple days ago he only has 3-4months left. Its been hard enough taking this news these past days and my mom didnt even try to have a real conversation with me about how im feeling.Shes acting like we arent dealing with a issue as serious as death.

And right now I went up to her room to ask when we can go visit my dad ( I havent seen him yet). and she started getting upset and eventually yelling at me. She said she has too much going on this week and I should wait till the hospital lets us know about the family meeting plan. I explained how I didnt want to wait b/c he has a brain tumor and hes going to get worse as time goes on.  I went downstairs and was crying and she came down and I was trying to tell her its not about going to see my dad anymore. I told her its about how she doesnt care how this sitation has affected me and about my feelings, she hasnt shown me any affection/hugged me and how she hasnt supported me. And she just kept going back about how I shouldnt visit my him yet. (This whole time Im crying very hard). Then she starts yelling how shes going through a lot too and shes only one person and she cant deal with all of this by herself.But Im the daughter dealing with her dads death!  Then she brings up and goes on about how my dad abused her,(nothing extreme. verbal,emotional,etc.) and hurt her in the past, even before we were born. But I dont understand what that has to do with me grieving my dads excpected death.Its like she thinks I shouldnt even want to see my dad as much as I do b/c he "abused" her and wasnt the best dad to us.She was rolling her eyes at me and just being so uncaring. Am I being the selfish person or is my mom being very horrible to me? I just cant believe this and I feel so alone and Im wishing I had a more caring/loving mother.And Im only almost 17, im not even an adult living on my own.What do I do? Why do you think she is being this way,I need another opinion on this and advice how to deal with her and get through this without her.Thank you.