Hey Sharon

When reading your post, my heart literally exploded when I read about your Dad wanting less debilitating treatment so that he could continue to care for your mum- how wonderful a man your Dad his, and it just shows the devotion they have for one another. That alone has made me smile for the day. 

But in terms of help, I worked in a care home for ages before my own health nose dived, and we had to contact social services. They are able to help with care funding, but also are the ones to help to ask about carers to come in and help around. Contact them, or contact Macmillan or one of the Nurses on this site, for additional information about social services etc. 

I would imagine that he will most definitely be entitled to help, alot of it. Him and your Mum deserve it, to make their lives a little bit easier. 

Lots of love and hugs, to you, your Mum and Dad, 

Alexia xxxx

Hello

Bless your dad what a wonderful man he must be.

I work wothin the community you would need to get in contact woth social services (im sure the hospital which your dad is receiving treatment could point you in the right direction) from there they would get funding and develop a care plan. Where i am (NI) moat clienta would be entitled to 4 calls a day am call for personal care, feeding or preparing breakfast etc. Lunch/tea for toileting and heating food amd if need be feeding. Bedtime for toileting changing into nightwear and making supper. I dont know the extent of your mums stroke but you could also look into things such as day sits/night sits to give your dad some respite and even if there are any local day centres in which your mum could go for a few hours a couple of times a week again for respite for your dad and alot of the time they are fantastic for the person going.

I hope you get all the help in which your family is entitled too and your lovely dad makes a speedy recovering and also your mum. In my thoughts xxx