Welcome to Cancer Chat, PAM1993 although I'm sorry to read about your dad.

We have some members who are in a similar situation with their loved ones with cancer and hopefully they will stop by soon to offer their support and advice with you.

Just know you don't have to face this situation alone, PAM1993, there will always be someone here to listen.

Best wishes to you and your dad,

Renata, Cancer Chat Moderator

Hi Pam. I too am going through a similar situation as you and I too am finding it extremely difficult. My dad has a few weeks ago been diagnosed with terminal cancer, a real shock to us all. we have an appointment on the 24th to discuss chemo and i suppose to tell us how long they think he has left to live. I am absolutely devastated too but am trying to stay strong for dad and my family. I too am having the same thoughts as you, that he won't see my children grow and that my younger children won't properly remember him. He was such an active man but the last month has really slowed him down. He is currently recovering from major bowel surgery. All I can say is be strong and try to stay positive and don't let your sadness affect your time together. Remember all the good times and try to create many more memories if he feels well enough. It is so so sad and I feel it too. Life can be so cruel sometimes. Be strong. You're not alone x

Why not get pics of dad in a suit then when u get married get him didgitly enhanced so ur together x

Hi PAM1993, 

So sorry your dear Dad has terminal cancer. I really sympathise with how you're feeling. I'm 28 and my Dad was diagnosed with bowel cancer that had spread yo his lungs and liver in April 2015. April this year it had spread to his brain and behind his left eye. My dad is dying. My Dad may die any day now as he is very unwell and his body has started breaking down. How do I deal with it? Well I just take each day as it comes because there is nothing else I can do. If you're able to then please take photos of your Dad and with your Dad. Video him so you can hear his voice, see him laugh. Spend time with him and treasure it. Create some memories and tell him how much you love him and the reasons why. My Dad is bed ridden and rarely opens his eyes so I can't do most things with mine, only cuddle him and talk to him. He can hear me but rarely responds. The future is hard to think about when you know that one of the main people in your life will not be a part of it. Like you my Dad will never see me marry my partner. I have a little boy whose nearly 4 and he will miss his grandad so much when he is gone. 

Big hugs to you 

Hi please know I totally understand your post . Look out of the blue my fit healthy dad was disgnosed with advanced spread Colin cancer. His battle was for myself and his grandchildren torture but his will and fight was outrageously amazing . Try to be there when you can. Talk to him about things you/he need/want to . Accept he will go through a lot and sometimes he may not appear the same. If you love him tell him and work around his cancer fight . Try to have hope live a day at a time. I know this is unbelievably hard. Do whatever he wishes as possible X