hi, i am 14 years old but if i had cancer I would want my family to stay positive, surprise me with things to keep myself feeling positive despite what is going on. She sounds like a good mum, hopefully her health doesn't deteriote even more.

I am so sorry you are going through this ,my dad also has terminal bowel cancer that has spread to his liver,main atery in his abdomen also has prostate cancer.Your wife is so young,you had four beautiful children together,she sounds like she have being so brave through all of this..I also don't know how I will cope without my dad he is terrified of dying but he is determined to live for as long as possible..I am struggling to come to terms with this.I also have a son and he makes me smile when I'm sad and makes me feel strong.Your beautiful children will pull you through this,they will give you reasons to smile everyday,When you want to scream just look at those four boys and remember the wonderful memories you built with your wife over the years.She will always be with you and will always be apart of you because you will see her in each and everyone of your boys.Stay strong,We are alot stronger than we think.You are not alone.

Jan 2021 21:57 in response to unknown.1234

Hi unknown.1234

Thank you for replying to my post, I will stay positive and make the most of our time together. 

Well done for telling your parents it takes alot of courage to admit that there is something your struggling to deal with.

I am sure you'll be fine  and your doctor can give you a good explanation to your worries

Hi becca30,  thank you for taking the time to reply, I have never written anything on the internet before, but it definitely helps to talk to others who are going through the same, I think more than anything I just want to tell people how amazing she is and how courageous she has been through all this, unfortunately I have to accept that she is not going to be around for much longer but we have lots of wonderful memories and 4 truly fantastic boys from our relationship and we will make sure that she will always be a big part of our family, 

I hope your dad is doing ok and you still have hope, it sounds like he is a great dad and a big part of your lives and you get to make the most of this time together which is so important, I'm sure you and your mum and son will get through this together, i think we have to focus on and be grateful for the times we had and not on what we will miss out on

Hi

So sorry to hear your wife is at this stage, she sounds like my mammy who sadly passed away on 4th Dec, positive, upbeat and just wanting the best for us. In my mammys final hours we kept everything normal as possible, sat with mammy in hospice, talked to her, fixed her hair, played smoothing music and told her it was ok it go and we would be ok it was a peaceful passing. 

 My wife died of breast cancer on 22nd December She left me with two boys and nine-year-old! Having your wife in a hospice is a good thing when the cancer squeezes they can give her more medication to make her pain-free my martyne was 39 and she was in no pain she was sleeping have a smile on her face when she went she saw her loved ones in heaven!  I hope your wife pulls through and can get better cancer sucks I hate it   I'm here if you want to talk