Hello,

I had a similar reaction to you when my husband was diagnosed with an aggressive prostate cancer and told he had a short lifespan,be assured it is normal.

Through looking at various forums I found out I had something called Anticipatory Grief , I realise our situations are different and as you say there are a whole range of possibilities for your loved one, but you might want to look it up

If nothing else it may help to know that your reaction to this terrible shock is quite normal

I hope my reply helps a little

when my mum got really sick of cancer it was almost like my body was preparing me, I would constantly think of who woule become my mother figure and whenever I closed my eyes all I could see were skulls. I also couldn’t switch this off so I know what your going through. The truth is we have no idea what life will throw at us so we have to make the most of every moment. As well as spending all ur time together try to figure out what helps to calm ur mind, for me it is listening to relaxing meditation music and taking deep breaths. Please make the most of the time u have got even if it’s another 50 yrs because all the time u have is precious, remind her that u love her every single day, I am so relieved I did this with my mum because now I have less regrets x

Thanks, this really helped to know that it's a normal thing.  I'm feeling a bit better now, although we're still waiting for that initial oncologist appointment.