I come here at 4am, on yet another night of not being able to sleep or cope with the worry and deepest sadness. My lovely mum is fading in front of my eyes from this god awful disease and I don't know how to bear it. She has not a shred of energy, eats only a little and I can see in her eyes how scared she is. We've had nearly two years of knowing her cancer was incurable, but it's only the past couple of months that things have gotten this bad. People tell me to be grateful for that and I want to scream. Because the truth is, I can't be grateful or appreciate the time we do have because it's not enough. She's the centre of our (somewhat broken) family and I just don't know how I am going to manage without her. My mum and dad seperate did years ago but are still friends, my dad stays involved but puts the burden on myself and to some extent my sister, and I am furious with him. He gets to unload and has all these suggestions about what needs to be done then gets to step away into his own life. I'm venting here and apologise as im all over the place, but today is a day where there are just too many horrific emotions involved that I need to get them out. My mum is so brave and stoic about her illness, at least to me, as I'm nearly 9 months pregnant. The thought that my mum is going to have limited time and involvement with my little one kills me, and I know it must be the same for her, as she's been such a devoted gran to my sisters kids. I don't really know what im looking for here but I almost don't know how to go on.,how do you find the strength for the one you love? On paper I have all the support in the world from a loving husband and good friends, but something about this is the most isolating experience possible and I just felt the need to reach out to others in the same boat.