It been a year now since my husband passed away and I still cannot cope with the thought of going in his wardrobe and clearing it I don’t even open it it’s too hart breaking .
There's no time frame on grief, my husband passed away three years ago and despite packing away most of his things I can't bring myself to move his coats which still hang up with ours at the back door. I'll move them if and when I'm ever ready to do it. And if not they will stay exactly where they are. Do everything at your own pace when you feel ready. Take care x
Thank you for your reply . My husband too passed away from stage 4 lung cancer this was unexpected and have two children my daughter now 17 and my son 19 .
Quite similar situations for both of us. My husband passed away unexpectedly too. Exactly eight weeks from a visit to the GP with a worsening cough. I have a daughter 18 at the time and a son 16 at the time. I hope you're all managing to keep putting one foot in front of the other.
Hope you don’t mind I have send you a friends request. Yes still do one day at a time but plan for the week so keep busy . I still work 3days a week and have an amazing puppy well she is 1 now . Would be nice to chat to you as got quite a lot in common
I quite agree with both of you. My lovely wife passed in June 2018 but I haven't really touched any of her stuff. I feel it's like i'm imposing on her belongings. I've tidied things up but I certainly wouldn't touch her handbag or personal stuff.
I even get upset looking at letters that she has written.
I suppose all we can do is try and get through each day but it would be nice to have some light at the end of the tunnel, but there isn't at the moment.
Hello, I lost my husband in June this dreadful year, only allowed to see him twice due to Covid restrictions. It's really difficult, nobody to meet and talk to. Just taking a day at a time, but it's so lonley, miss him so much after being married for 35 years. As for clearing clothes it's never the right time. I feel I have just been forgotten due to Covid. Dreading the winter and dark nights, it's really scars me.
You don't have to do it if you don't feel up to it.
When my dad passed in 2016 I told my mum to just keep my dad's stuff as it was. Wouldn't make any difference to get rid of it and it's stuff that I consider memories of him. I took with me some of his jumpers.
There isn't a law that says you have to get rid of their belongings x. If you wanna hold on to them that's perfectly fine. If you can't face opening the wardrobe that's fine. You do only what you feel like doing. Don't feel obliged to do anything you're not ready for.
