Hi, im so sorry your going through this, my mum (58) was told 3 days ago her pancreatic cancer has come back after only finishing chemo may its now back with a vengeance, i to am ok one minute then breaking down the next then getting angry at the poor service shes received and the negligence.

My mum also had a clear scan recently only 3 weeks ago and we were absolutely over the moon to only have our lives turned upside down now.

I just wanted to reply to say there is some lovely people on here who will come along and give you some advice,  i no its really hard but we have to stay srong in front of our loved ones, my mums told me the grandkids aren't to no yet which is very different when all i want to do is scream.

Stay strong 

Xx

Hi Elizabeth,

i am so sorry your poor mum is going through this too.  Must be very difficult trying to keep it together in front of your children.  

Your words are a comfort to me .... thank you. 

I keep telling myself, stay strong in front of him, plenty of time to scream/cry whilst he's sleeping.

Once  again, thanks for your encouragement 

Annie x

Hi Annie, 

Has the consultant discussed any treatment (i hate to say these words but) to give your Husband a little longer? My mum is waiting for her consultant's to get together Wednesday as thats the only day they get together to discuss what's going to happen  then they'll make an appointment for the week after to discuss her treatment hopefully to give her a bit longer.

I can't imagine how your feeling with your Husband being so young, its just heartbreaking they can be taken from us so soon.

Sending love

Elizabeth 

Xx

Hi Elizabeth,

My partner is 54 and we have been together for just over 30yrs (sorry, don't think I made that very clear). 

Yes, we are awaiting an appointment with his oncologist at the moment.  Hopefully chemo will give him more time.  he looks quite well at the moment .... sometimes I look at him and  think .. can this really be happening?  

Do hope your mum gets an appointment soon and they give her options to give her more time.  This waiting part is awful isn't it .... the worst really.  

Ive been feeling a little stronger this last few days, hope you have too.  I'm taking  each day at a time.  I wake up, tell myself, just for today, we are going to have a good day, I don't think about tomorrow .... I think it's working ..... for the time being. 

Take care and sending big hugs 

Annie x

Hi there ...

Bless ya, just read your thread .. think your being an amazing wife and friend .. so many times given that diagnosis,  we think of the future and everything looks overwhelming... in doing that we miss today .. and loose so many good memories we can still make .. looking at everyday as a bonus and doing those things that will last a lifetime in your heart ... they say memories are pictures the heart takes ...

Yes there will be sad days and just saying that's o.k .. and know every emotion is part and parcel of this journey... good days going somewhere he wants to go .. days he doesn't want to, you could look through old albums .. every picture holds a story ... 

I lost my mum suddenly from a heart attack and had no chance to even say those things like I was so proud to be her daughter... what I'd have given for one more day or even one hour ... you have that chance I never had... make every moment count ... there's a wonderfull lass that was on here, who has walked this same journey as you are now.. she pops on occa @SusanRuth  ... she's an angel who has helped many others while her heart was brused so badly loosing the love of her life ... but she filled that time while she had him by her side with as much as possible ..  l hope she sees your thread ... 

Sending you a vertual hug...  Chrissie